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post #1 of 26 Old 12-15-2011, 08:32 AM Thread Starter
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I have been riding at this barn for 9 years. I can walk, trot, canter and go over 3 foot jumps. My riding teacher sold the horse I rode and is now putting me on horses to train for her for free! I have to pay to train her horse and it's frustrating me like crazy! She won't teach me anything new, and she told me I am ready to show but wont teach me anything besides walking, trotting and cantering around. I can't even practice jumping because the yearling I am riding cannot jump! I don't know what to do, I want to change barns, but I want to stay loyal to my riding teacher. I need opinions. Please answer nicely. My mom and I are frustrated, and everytime I try to talk to my teacher about this issue she blows it off by changing the subject! Help!

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post #2 of 26 Old 12-15-2011, 08:47 AM
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You're Riding a yearling? Something's not right, for sure.
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Are you positive you ride the yearling? I have some high doubts about it. Walk/trot/canter are the basics to anything: whether it's dressage, jumping, or even trail riding.

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I have been riding at this barn for 9 years. I can walk, trot, canter and go over 3 foot jumps. My riding teacher sold the horse I rode and is now putting me on horses to train for her for free! I have to pay to train her horse and it's frustrating me like crazy! She won't teach me anything new, and she told me I am ready to show but wont teach me anything besides walking, trotting and cantering around. I can't even practice jumping because the yearling I am riding cannot jump! I don't know what to do, I want to change barns, but I want to stay loyal to my riding teacher. I need opinions. Please answer nicely. My mom and I are frustrated, and everytime I try to talk to my teacher about this issue she blows it off by changing the subject! Help!
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Riding different horses will make you a better and more rounded rider. HOWEVER - if you have a specific end goal and your instructor is not helping you reach it - yes switch.
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post #5 of 26 Old 12-15-2011, 11:38 AM Thread Starter
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Question About The Yearling

Well I've been riding her since she was 2. I think its extremely abusive, she's too young. She just now turned 3... Like last month. And the riding teacher always yanks on her really bad. My goal is to go into the Three Day Eventing circuit. My riding teacher is extremely stubborn and I believe she's even abusive! I don't know what to do or say. I know walk/trot/canter are the basics. I've been doing those since I was 6. I'm not trying to sound conceded, but my teacher even said I've "perfected" the walk/trot/canter! And she says my balance is amazing, my seat, my leg position, everything. She told me my jumping is amazing, my seat, my leg position, my hand position... I believe she doesn't want to lose money from a student leaving to another barn. But she won't even talk to me about it! She changes the subject right when I say something about it. I think she's abusive! I am riding a 3 year old, isn't that the age the horse should be started at? 3 - 4? The horse is a Gray Appendix Quarter Horse, she just turned 3 last month and she's 15.2 hands high. Everytime I mount she grunts and pins her ears back, I'm only 130 and 5'8.

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It's perfectly ok to outgrow a barn and trainer. If after nine years you feel that you are no longer progressing, then perhaps you should start looking into other trainers. Also, to me, the fact that you think your trainer is abusive and obviously not listening to you, sounds like you've both lost respect for each other.

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post #7 of 26 Old 12-15-2011, 11:57 AM Thread Starter
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I still respect her, its just she is very violent with her horses. The ranch is an amazing place the family that owns it is amazing, but the teacher is having financial issues. So I am starting to believe that she is trying to avoid discussing moving barns because she doesn't want to lose some income. I don't know to be honest, but I really am getting frustrated about how she acts! I have to go eat and go to a sewing class. I just need help. I don't know how to tell her I'm about to move barns... What should I say!?

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Well I've been riding her since she was 2. I think its extremely abusive, she's too young. She just now turned 3... Like last month. And the riding teacher always yanks on her really bad. My goal is to go into the Three Day Eventing circuit. My riding teacher is extremely stubborn and I believe she's even abusive! I don't know what to do or say. I know walk/trot/canter are the basics. I've been doing those since I was 6. I'm not trying to sound conceded, but my teacher even said I've "perfected" the walk/trot/canter! And she says my balance is amazing, my seat, my leg position, everything. She told me my jumping is amazing, my seat, my leg position, my hand position... I believe she doesn't want to lose money from a student leaving to another barn. But she won't even talk to me about it! She changes the subject right when I say something about it. I think she's abusive! I am riding a 3 year old, isn't that the age the horse should be started at? 3 - 4? The horse is a Gray Appendix Quarter Horse, she just turned 3 last month and she's 15.2 hands high. Everytime I mount she grunts and pins her ears back, I'm only 130 and 5'8.
It is common tyo ride a qtr hs at 2. Not my choice but it is regulary done. So if you have been riding it for a year why is it now a problem? Your post is confusing as you state you have been riding it since it was 2 which was a year ago and you also state that you just started riding it and are unhappy.
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Hi, alright so as a traininer, I don't think its bad starting a horse walk trot canter at the age of 2/3. I have a 3 year old now that is going wtc and started over 2 foot fences. She is doing fine. If the horse has just started grunting and pinning her ears it probly doesnt have to do with your weight but she is mad about being ridden or uncomfortable. Numerous things, another explination could be "she is a mare" . NOW, because I have been in your position before im half and half. Yes riding more horses is awesome, you develop a nack for being able to get on different horses and not be worried/uncomfortable. However, I had a coach that also did this to me and yes for the first few years it was good until I wanted to get eventing, so I bought my own horse, him and I did awesome I started eventing and still ocasionally rode a horse for her but not often. However, she wouldnt let me jump over 3 foot and I was wanting to move on. So I switched barns. I competed that horse up to 4 foot within a month a my new barn.

Basically what I am saying is riding other hroses are good, but you have to reach for your goals too and if she isnt helping you get there then switch. A change isnt always a bad thing.
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Well I rode the yearling on and off, but that isn't the point. I want to know how to tell the riding teacher I am leaving in a way that wont upset her! I'm unhappy because I am not progressing whatsoever and haven't been for 1 year and a half! It's annoying. I pay 50 bucks a lesson, seriously, I don't know how to say it to her. Or how to bring up the subject... I want to know if I should leave the barn... My riding teacher isn't teaching me anything. And I am pretty much training a horse for her for free, I should be getting paid. What the heck...? I pay 50 bucks to ride a horse that I have to train myself. I think that's really stupid...

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