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post #1 of 14 Old 06-24-2010, 10:07 PM Thread Starter
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Too Tired to Fight

Lately I've been fighting a lot with my horse - I want to trot, he wants to canter; I want to jump, he wants to plow through jumps. Basically we've both become so tense that I get hard on his mouth, and it becomes a vicious cycle. When this generally happens, it takes a while for us to break the cycle.

To make a long story short, my good friend from high school died this week of cancer at age 19. I pretty much lost all my fight. I've been turning to riding for a moment to myself, and I have to say that since I've given up all of my fight, everything has suddenly clicked.

Tonight I went to lessons, and my horse went like a CHAMPION. If we rode a dressage as good as we rode tonight we'd be scoring 99s! He flexed and went in a frame easily, didn't spook at things the other horse spooked at, and went really well. My coach suggested we jump. I was a little worried but she set up jumps and he went over them SO WELL! I am so so proud.

Isn't it such a great feeling when suddenly everything comes together and just works perfectly?

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post #2 of 14 Old 06-24-2010, 10:12 PM
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I love those moments when it really all comes together.

Nico also loves a good fight...he loves to annoy. When I'm having a bad day and I ride just to get away, I think he just takes over. He always brightens my day. Sounds like your boy does the same!

Sorry to hear about your friend. 19 is so young.
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post #3 of 14 Old 06-24-2010, 10:44 PM
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I love those moments...
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I know! It was just the greatest thing. I just let out a big sigh.. like it felt like it was right on. I loved it.

And yes, 19 is so young <3 but it was her decision to cut off the life support (her lungs had deteriorated and she was breathing through a machine). From now on, I'm riding for her. She'd want me to do my very best.

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Im sorry to hear about yoru friend :(

I do love those moments!

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post #6 of 14 Old 06-25-2010, 12:52 AM
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I am so sorry about your friend :( What a horrible thing to have to go through, for all those involved. Absolutely heartbreaking :(

I absolutely love those rides! You can work so hard daily and get nowhere, but them BAM that one ride goes so beautifully, it makes you grin from ear to ear!

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post #7 of 14 Old 06-25-2010, 05:29 AM
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ahh them rides are amazing you suddenly feel like everything you thought is coming tgether finally!!
Very sorry about your friend

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post #8 of 14 Old 06-28-2010, 06:53 AM
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Very very sorry for your friend :( It is so sad that that happened at such a young age..

Those rides are the best. Everything just works so well and you are on top of the world!

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post #9 of 14 Old 06-29-2010, 08:52 AM
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I am SO sorry about your friend. My dad's best friend died last year only 8 weeks after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (it was my mom who realiszed something was wrong first). He left behind an estranged wife and 6 children. He, my dad, and their other best friend were refered to as the 3 Irishmen in our church, as they LOVED their irish heritage and anything related to Ireland (my dad and this friend are both red-heads only a few generations removed from Ireland). It was heart wrenching to watch a man I loved like an uncle pass so painfully, but it is SUCH a relief to know that his suffering is over. I hope you and her family will find comfort and peace as well.

As for the "click"...I'm waiting for that to happen with my boy. LOL But, I've only had him 3 months, and he's only 4 months off the track...so we've only ridden together twice. We have a loooooooooooong way to go, but your story makes me want to go out and ride him NOW! LOL
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As for the "click"...I'm waiting for that to happen with my boy. LOL But, I've only had him 3 months, and he's only 4 months off the track...so we've only ridden together twice. We have a loooooooooooong way to go, but your story makes me want to go out and ride him NOW! LOL
When you do, you're going to come back here and post a thread about it, because it is AWESOME!!

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