Yes, he has me extremely well trained. And being my first horse it is so frustrating because I find myself letting him get away with things I would never have put up with from leases in the past, especially on the ground. I seem to have some hormonally driven mental block with him (joke) where cooing and cuddling take over and the brain shuts down. We've fixed our ground manners issue and several others undersaddle but he so often finds these ways to kind of undermine me which I don't realize until they are so clearly pointed out as you have just done.
He DOES seem irritated when I bring him back after he trots. Your explaination (as usual) is very clear and I can see what I need to do differently. I will work on this during our ride today. I have a clinic with a dressage trainer from Kansas City next week and can't wait to see what wonderful things she has for us to work on!!