There is a British lady rider called Mary King - she regularly wins these cross country event competitions. But her style - well it doesn't really matter - she is a queen. She stays on, she gets her horse round a very tricky course and she does it all in the shortest of times. If only I could emulate her - but sadly I can't. We should all know our place - mine is mucking out.
So as you say - it is all about enjoying oneself, staying on, and getting both horse and rider back home safely. We must make do with the body we have got, whilst we still have use of it.
Neither my current horse DiDI nor my previous horse Joe seek/sought a glass of wine but both looked for some form of appreciation for services rendered. So when we do reach the pub it is each to our own choice of treat: Joe had a packet of salt and vinegars - DiDi is happy with a few horse biscuits. Me, well I get a glass of red. Just as well really, we would not want to see DiDi being breathalysed before she got back to the yard when riding back from the pub.
Heels up or heels down - well it all depends on what we can manage nowadays - doesn't it? Despite all of the good advice on this thread - those heels won't stay down - they pop up at the slightest of opportunities. I accept it would be nice to peek at those toes but these days it just ain't possible.