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post #1 of 11 Old 01-14-2014, 11:21 PM Thread Starter
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Would it be bad to find a second instructor?

I've been trying to contact my instructor to set up a lesson but haven't heard back from her. Now I'm not wanting to up and leave the facility I get lessons at but am considering getting lessons at another facility in the meanwhile. I know my instructor has hit a rough patch with some personal things and I have a feeling that has a bit to do with the delay.

My thing is...would it be wrong for me to get lessons elsewhere for the meanwhile?
I'm saying this because I'm a newer rider (only 27 previous lessons) and I've heard of some instructors having conflicting styles/ways of riding that can complicate things.

Any input? :3 I feel as if it shouldn't be a bad thing, but then I don't want to slow down my process but I haven't had a lesson in over a month (partially due to my schedule) :3

Anywhoo. I'll be attempting to contact the barn once more tomorrow (to see if anyone is covering for my usual instructor) before trying to find a temporary barn.

Thanks for any input/comments!
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post #2 of 11 Old 01-14-2014, 11:33 PM
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Yes there are conflicting ideas but the only way you'll know is to try or watch some of the new instructors lessons.
If there are any differences you have concerns about ask why things are done that way.
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post #3 of 11 Old 01-14-2014, 11:35 PM
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Go for it. Taking lessons is merely a business arrangement. You are the customer and the instructor is providing a service that some are willing to pay for.

It's not unusual for serious students to take lessons or get coaching from more than one person. And professional instructors don't mind. My polo coach even encourages us to ride with player a,b, or c, to learn their specific strengths.

And in the ranching end, I've often volunteered to work for different people just to learn more of a skill they excel at.
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post #4 of 11 Old 01-15-2014, 05:59 PM
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Learn from as many people as you can as often as you can. Don't be a snob about it. Be happy and friendly as ever. This is a business too. You have to think about you sometimes. If she's not available she's not available. Don't get left behind.
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post #5 of 11 Old 01-15-2014, 06:34 PM
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My trainer encourages us to go to clinics and go to other trainers if we can, heck she even still clinics and goes to several trainers. I know some trainers can get possessive but good ones don't have a problem with it. If my trainer wouldn't allow me to go to clinics/trainers then I would think something is up.
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post #6 of 11 Old 01-17-2014, 06:33 PM
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one month no lessons?? I would be going nuts. Yes. Go. Yes everyone has their own opinion on things. Too much so.. but whose to say your current instructor's opinion is better or worse than this new one that you will try?

Hearing different peoples different methodologies can be confusing for us newbies but I make myself hear it anyway. Take everything in you can, use what works. The basics are generally similar.

When I first started I loved my new instructor. But then I learned there was so much more out there and you don't know unless you peek and find out! You never know what you might be missing, or it will just reinforce what you have.
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post #7 of 11 Old 01-17-2014, 06:59 PM
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I would give your instructor a call and tell her that while you are still hoping to get back to her lessons you are going to be looking for another instructor in the interim to keep up with your riding. There's nothing wrong with it, and the potential for conflicting ideas will hurt you much less than not riding while she gets her stuff sorted out.

THAT is one thing about the horse world that frustrates me to no end. I completely understand that sometimes life happens and you need to put things on hold. What I don't appreciate is when people can't do a 30 second phone call to say "Sorry, I'm having some family issues at the moment. I will not be able to give lessons in the meantime, but X will. I'll let you know when I'll be available again. I'm really sorry I have to cut our conversation short, but I have some errands that I need to attend to". It really isn't that hard to keep someone in the loop, and I've had these problems with instructors, shippers, and numerous farriers. I don't blame anyone for having problems in their life, but being polite and explaining the situation goes a long way towards keeping clients.

I would be willing to bet that if you give her a call and mention taking lessons elsewhere (even temporarily) that you'll get a call back tomorrow to tell you what's up. This is YOUR riding career, not hers. You don't need to wait on the sidelines until she gets back with you when there are other riding options out there. I'd tell her first and see if she straightens up, and if not find somewhere else. You can always go back to your original trainer if she finds herself available again... but you may find you like the new place better. When I was young I started riding with the barn owner at my barn. She ended up running out of lesson time, so put her younger, less experienced, and what she thought were "less serious" students with the new trainer. Time passed, and I kept with it. Bought my own horse, and was paying the new trainer for lessons and training on him all through high school. She did get money for my horse for board during that time, but told me once that she regretted passing me on to the new trainer when I was young.
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post #8 of 11 Old 01-17-2014, 07:01 PM
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If your instructor is indisposed for awhile, try another one. Your current instructor can't really complain about that since she's unavailable.

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post #9 of 11 Old 03-01-2014, 10:54 PM Thread Starter
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Sorry for such a delayed response! I read all the responses and swore I commented back. Clearly I didn't.

I just wanted to say Thank You for all of the input concerning the "issue"! Luckily, my instructor felt better within the next couple days after this post was made and I've been back on track with my lessons(:

Again, I really appreciate all the comments!
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post #10 of 11 Old 03-02-2014, 12:38 AM
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Seen it's resolved, excellento! Through the decades of taking lessons, apprenticing under trainers, I found under some coaches, you can, some you can't, totally depends on the person. The coach I have now, which took me 20 years to be a sudent if hers, I wouldn't risk it. If I feel I need to learn something beyond her realm, she will audit another trainer's clinic or lesson and either use what that trainer has or send me to them. A student of hers wanted to learn saddleseat for the Canadian Arabian finals. She found a trainer for that student and audited every lesson. By the way, that student got 1st under all 3 judges and received a standing ovation. I have a feeling your coach might not mind, mine always returns my calls and even calls me regularly during the winter when no lessons are happening to see what I am doing with my horses and suggest various things to work on in the snow. One would think she charges a fortune for this, think again, she only charges for actual lessons at her arena. If you find a dedicated coach who teaches you something new or improves upon something each time you ride with them, DON'T RISK IT!
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