Today's ride was well.. If I could describe it in one word, it would be defeat. I am so upset right now. We were working dressage, and it was meant to be an easy day; lunging, warm up, do a different dressage pattern, done. But of course not. We were going through the dressage pattern, and it seemed like his brakes became rustier and rustier. By the end up the pattern when we were supposed to halt, I had to shorten and shorten and tighten the reins the get him to stop. It seemed as if I was trying to stop a train. It felt like this in all of the down transitions. Eventually we went onto transition work, like walk stop trot walk, and at a point my hard hands came back and I slammed onto his mouth. I automatically became so mad that I allowed my old terrible habit to come back and the waterworks started. I got myself together and did some walk stop back walk stop-- and went onto getting his bad lead. We got it on the 2nd try, and I wanted him to slow down during it, and he decided to just trot instead of have a controlled canter.. I pushed my heels into him twice, quickly, and his head flew up and he took off.. I followed with a one rein stop and got off to collect my thoughts and to not get mad. I got back on and we did walking and stopping.
Overall, I felt defeated. It's one of those bad rides where it feels as if you are stuck in a hole. I am starting to dread the show now, just because the dressage. Right now my horse is in crossties, watching me type this.
Does anyone have any tips on how to get an easy, soft stop and nice downward transitions?