Yesterday at the barn, while I was riding Nelson in the indoor - there was a fellow boarder on her HUGE massive Irish Sport Horse. HUGE MOFO, seroiusly! He was being very spunky under saddle for her, and I remember hearing the BO saying "don't let him do that" and the rider responded "why? It's just him being him, I accept it"
And she sat quietly, rode him through it and that was that.
I respect her for that! I respect the fact that she accepts her horse for who he is and allows him to express himself in his way. Instead of beating him into submission.
Most riders would of beat him with their crop, or yanked on his face or made him work his ass off until he submitted - but not her. And for that, I applaud her and respect her.
Just as Allison said - team work, teamsmanship, group effort - not one dominating the other.