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post #11 of 24 Old 05-31-2011, 03:45 PM
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Personally, I would think about talking to them about being compensated for all of the work you do with the animals. I understand feeling bad for them and taking care of them, and I am sure it wouldn't be an issue if it weren't constant, but since it is why not see if they will maybe give you money off of your lease, etc... That way you'd come out ahead monetarily and not feel like you're neglecting them
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post #12 of 24 Old 05-31-2011, 04:27 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Jacksmama View Post
Personally, I would think about talking to them about being compensated for all of the work you do with the animals. I understand feeling bad for them and taking care of them, and I am sure it wouldn't be an issue if it weren't constant, but since it is why not see if they will maybe give you money off of your lease, etc... That way you'd come out ahead monetarily and not feel like you're neglecting them
I have discussed minor things as they've come up. My neighbors are lovely people, i just dont think they should own animals.
They turned off their autowater and i put my horse in their goat pasture so he could drink from the other one. They asked why i didnt just let him drink from their pond like their horse. The pond has algae ALL over the top of it, its not even relatively clean. I tried to be polite though im sure my emotions came through and she got defensive that if it were dangerous their horse would have died already. Mind you, isaw their dogs drink from it and then vomit right after. I told her i wasnt comfortable leaving my horse out all night with only 1 run in shed bc her horse doesnt allow mine to get coverage and it was kind of like, well you can just bring your horse in the barn then. But thats almost impossible because he runs a rut in the stall and her horse tries to go through the fence.
I cant ask for $$ because I was paying them $100 to bring my horse out in the mornings ($100 to walk 200 feet- no feed, no nothing) then they told me i could stop paying that since i was feeding and bringing in their horse every night. Then it changed to "its too hot to walk that distance in the morning, can we just feed them out in the pasture and leave them out"? To which i agreed,as long as i could separate them for feeding time. So now they dont touch their horse EVER because the only interaction he gets is dinner time, when i feed them. It used to be a give and take situation but its becoming more and more of a take situation. I'm not lazy and i enjoy my interaction with my horse. I cant feed one and expect the other to just stand there calmly. So I guess ill make a point by bringing them in at night again and feeding in their stalls. I dont want to put either horse in the other pasture now seeing what true damage it could cause.
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post #13 of 24 Old 05-31-2011, 05:42 PM
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I don't think anyone is suggesting you don't help an animal in distress. We would all help a horse or goat with its leg caught in the fence.
But as far as the other matters go, yes, it is just a difference in opinion on care. Routine vet care is absolutely their call. If I had a large field with enough pasture to keep the horses well fed, why would I feed hay at the same time? They generally prefer fresh grass anyway.
As far as grain goes, at my barn there are 8 horses, and only 5 get grain, the seniors and the ones in competition. The rest don't need it, they have excellent weight and health on hay alone. That is just how my BO does it, I have no negative opinions on whether one wants to feed a horse grain or not, so long as they are healthy. So, you are not obligated to feed this other horse, he is probably just fine without it. -
You can just bring yours in to feed, it won't hurt the other horse to be lonely for 10 min. If you don't want to bring him all the way in, then bring a bucket with you, and bring your horse just outside the pasture and hold him while he eats. -
You definitely should not be riding in the same field as the other horse, esp since he sounds pushy, that could be dangerous. Instead of moving the other horse, why don't you just ride in the other field? Leave the other horse where he was, so you can't get blamed if he hurts himself.-
I know it is hard when you think a horse isn't getting the same standard of care that your horse gets, but as long as he is at a decent weight, he is fine.-
And when the neighbors comment on how well your horse rides and behaves compared to theirs, well, take it as the compliment that it is. Sounds like you are doing a great job with your horse.
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post #14 of 24 Old 06-01-2011, 12:00 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks skips. I tried feeding them, one in the pasture, my horse in the round pen yesterday. Well i simply looped the the gate latch since when there is food around, theres usually well behaved horses, but I swear Cooper eyed me and ran through the gate. I played pin the lead rope on the halter, and rope the lead rope around his neck game for a solid 10 minutes. LOL its funny now but wasnt then.
I think everyone was right about just doing the minimum. But since they become acustomed to me feeding, it'll be hard to let them know i wont be doing it for their horse anymore.
I will try to have a casual conversation with them this weekend about what can chagne and what arrangements can be made.
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post #15 of 24 Old 06-21-2011, 04:30 PM
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i understand helping the animals when they need it. i would do the same. if its your barn that you are letting them use to keep their animals in you can always tell the owners the problems that you are having with them and you dont have to let them use your barn. call AC or the police and explain everything and see what they say. its worth a try. also, leave the mounting block and maybe the next time they ride they might think "hmm. maybe i should work with my horse to get him to listen better!" and if they they get mad at their horse when trying to ride calmly suggest that they should spend more time with their horse working with it

i sortof have a similar problem but its my brother and we still live in the same house but he is figuring out that he needs to actually do something with his horse and teach him things and not just expect the horse to do it
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post #16 of 24 Old 06-21-2011, 06:32 PM
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So let me get this straight. They expected you to pay them $100 for putting your horse out in the morning, and you paid it even after you started feeding them and putting them up at night, until THEY finally told YOU you could stop. Now that they are doing nothing and you are still feeding them, you are doing it for FREE.

I don't mean for this to come off rude, but I think an issue bigger than your inability to NOT take care of your neighbors animals because you feel sorry that they would have to watch your horse eat, is that you let them use you as a door mat. You need to get a backbone and jusy politely let them know you will not be feeding their animals for them anymore, unless of course they wouldn't mind compensating you for your trouble.

It's nice that you have such a big heart, but if you continue to allow yourself to be taken advantage of, it will only get worse. That will just make it harder to tell them you're through when you're finally fed up.
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post #17 of 24 Old 07-16-2011, 05:45 PM
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They are using you it seems. I would have a big talk about that.
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post #18 of 24 Old 07-16-2011, 06:38 PM
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I would put a note on their door saying
Starting (enter date) I will be charging (enter amount) if you would like me to continue caring for your animals. :)
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post #19 of 24 Old 08-27-2011, 04:20 AM
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I have two mares and only feed one as she is old and thin. They are out on plenty of mixed pasture 24/7. In the winter I feed Sienna morning and night otherwise, once a day. Piper is dominant and Sienna likes her food. I have to seperate. Sometimes I bring Sienna into the house yard (open the gate and let her slip through) where she eats with Piper watching from the paddock. Other times I halter Piper, tie her up and then hold the bucket for Sienna in the paddock, again with Piper watching. I found it really hard to only feed one horse when there were two in my care but Piper has a baby belly to lose and is not currently in work and was a terror to handle when being feed a handful each time Sienna was fed. I'd like to suggest that they have considered the horses requirements and found extra feeding unneccssary but hey it doesn't really sound like it from your description. Don't be surprised if they tell you to stop feeding their horse when you speak to them. I hope you can work it out with them. Good luck

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post #20 of 24 Old 08-29-2011, 02:58 PM
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first of all we own goats, 5 of them, and they as much as i luv them are a bit tarded lol..u have to have special fencing to keep them in and then even when they have the same food on oneside they'll stick their head through fence to eat on other side....we have resorted to putting chicken wire up on outside fences(were the most often stick head through)so we can actually leave the house without coming home to atleast one of them w/head stuck..you may mention something like that to them. i know it's not your responsability at all but im like u i couldnt let the animal suffer so in the long run it would help u and your sanity....i had neighbor that had long horn steers....they always were getting horns caught in fence reach through to my water trough, they were always out of their water, so i slid it over so it was 1/2 on their side....i check our water regularly and it beat getting their heads unstuck...could never get ahold of owners....i also atleast left mssg. every time i got one unstuck..they didnt care eather...they would say should left it maybe they'll learn...rrrrrg

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