The way I see it, is that you are going to come across people you don't like everywhere you go in life and you can't run away. You have had a bad experience with her, move on and continue with what you are doing. Ask her mother to clarify when you can and can not jump and explain (without getting narky) why you are asking. Don't try and cause problems with the daughter just ask for clarification.
Stop for a minute, open your mind, learn. You may not agree with what I say, I may not agree with what you say but we will both learn something new.