I don't think you're being disrespectful of them, so no worries there. You'd mentioned that one of the horses was on the spooky side...well, they advertise just about every horse the same way..same verbage, slightly different. All are what appears to be solid, steady, calm, beginner safe horses. All seem to be right on the line of pace/vs/rack.
I've been really burned by horse people so I've been w/o for over a year. I'm really thinking of getting back to riding again and it just pains me to see that what people say and what they actually have are two different things. I know it goes with the horse world, more often than not. If buyers would just be more honest about their riding abilities and sellers more honest about what kind of rider their horse needed there wouldn't be as many re-homing/selling and the poor horses wouldn't be bounced from pillar to post. Wow!! Rant over, lol.