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post #11 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 08:16 PM
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^^ Uhm, yeah ... that's going to be a rough one. Good thing my hubby liked the stock horse types LOL. Even though he ended up with a little mustang, finding a buckskin/palomino wasn't that hard.
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post #12 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 08:21 PM Thread Starter
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well the thing is that he wants something with color so bad. I could find him a nice mft in the browns color family for a darn fair price. Heck I could even find him a black one for a fair price! But he wants his roan. Gah! Buying is a little ways away yet since we do have baby on the way, but it's always fun to dream... especially when it involves kicking my mans butt while horseback riding
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post #13 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 09:22 PM
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I swim upstream on this issue.

First, don't buy a horse at all. Get him to a good, classical instructor. English is best because it's the most challenging. He'll learn to feel the horse much more quickly in an English saddle if only because there's less of it than a Western saddle.

He should ride for the first year or two on a trotter. This will will teach him much better balance. It also enhances the ability to feel the horse move.

When you're sure this is for real and not a "passing fancy" then look for a horse for him.

Now a lot of guys, particularly from the Western world, figure English is "sissy." Would you call this "sissy?":

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Good look, too:

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(These are from my "Real Men Ride English" collection.

But, in all seriousness, lessons first then a horse.


Trust me on this; it won't go well for either of you.

Getting a spouse on board as a rider is a Very Good Thing but there are million ways for the effort to "go south." Find a good instructor and let them do the work. It will cost money; it can save a relationship.

Good luck your project.

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post #14 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 10:31 PM
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I don't think I agree with the 'under no circumstances are you to teach him'. I think it depends on the couple, and teaching him to ride isn't necessarily a one way trip to a ruined relationship, lol. I know lots of couples who ride- and yep, one taught the other.
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post #15 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 10:41 PM Thread Starter
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well as far as teaching him, I have taught him some groundwork basics. He is a very fast learner and understands the things like it has already been taught to him. It's almost unbelievable actually. As far as teaching him English, that is probably not an option because the English trainers in the area that I trust are out of my price range and his. However I do agree with English being able to feel the horse better. Also I have the only trotter around that I know of, so finding another mft for him to ride besides mine is not an easy task, especially from someone that ensured the horse had proper training and is willing to trust me to use the horse to train a greenie.

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post #16 of 26 Old 02-28-2013, 10:50 PM
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Sorry, but if I "required" my hubby to take a single lesson, nevermind an English lesson before "allowing" him to ride his new horse down the driveway, none if it would have ever happened, including us, lol! He's my favourite trail partner who I am not permitted to instruct, ever.

That said, my hub was born with that natural talent that makes all of us technical learners rage with jealousy. He also lucked out incredibly with his purchase, which he did ask my opinion on before signing the deal. I couldn't have found him a better match. I also know that my hub isn't the type to jump into anything so hearty as horse ownership without having a clear and solid interest. He's an honest realist, which is the entire foundation of us. I was never interested in marriage or kids until I met him. Lmao!
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Eta: This makes me sound like some kind of meek woman... It's more like shock that not only did a man finally stand up to me, but that I'm all the crazier for him because of that.

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post #17 of 26 Old 03-01-2013, 12:12 AM Thread Starter
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hemms I think you, your hubby, and me and my man are almost disturbingly similar... haha but thats ok since hes awesome and *ahem* not to brag but I'm pretty cool too..just kidding, couldn't resist it :)

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Lol! ^Love!^
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post #19 of 26 Old 03-01-2013, 07:21 PM
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I agree with Darrin about the gaited thing.So many time the two do not go at the same speeds and the non-gaiter suffers.

I think a good horse is so much more important than color. People let that pretty color cloud their judgment and they buy something they are later unhappy with. The best horse I ever had was the plainest bay. Beautifully trained, wonderfully smooth gaited, a utter joy in every way. What did I care after that if she was just bay. It kept people from wanting to steal her. They went for the pretty paint that reared or the palomino that pulled back and broke every lead rope. Maybe the black that took hours to load where my mare loaded in any trailer that you pointed at.
Once you have picked out that dream horse, just ask yourself, would you buy the horse, pay the same money, if the horse were a bay?
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post #20 of 26 Old 03-01-2013, 07:59 PM
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I had a similar situation and while I think that if you're going to ride with your man you want to ride something that will move at the same type of speed and can time up together. My fiance took lessons on a horse that trots first because it was very good for his balance and overall technique in the saddle. He now rides a nice big quality show twh, but he can ride anything sane reasonably well and I think that is from taking lessons on Lucy (the trotting push mare he was stuck with lol)

Anyways just my opinion! :)

Originally Posted by cowgirl928 View Post
haha yeah i think that BBBCrone's hubby and my man have this in common. If my man is going to get something he wants it to be perfect because he wants to own it for a looong tiiiime...However, the possibility of us finding a small gaited horse that is bay or blue roan, close to our state, in our budget, under the age of 12, without any major problems health or vices, and that is calm, oh and a gelding, is going to be like sifting through sand hoping to find a 1ct. diamond. haha

At least he can get a feel for riding before I start riding again. And mark my words- the moment my body heals from birth I WILL be riding ;) ...even if it is just at a walk :)
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