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        01-07-2013, 02:00 PM
      #1
    Foal
    *Rant* Controlling People!

    I don't know about anyone else, but I really can't stand it when people try to control other people.

    Maybe I'm hyper-sensitive to it because I was once in a (unwanted) "relationship", if it could even be called that since it was entirely one-sided, with a guy I wanted nothing to do with, who was practically a stalker and who tried to control me to the nth degree. But my mother liked him because he knew how to turn on the charm around her, so she kept having him come around. *Shudder*

    But that was years ago, and thankfully that is long over. What got me going now is that I'm friends with someone on Facebook who, nearly every day, posts things that she wants all of her friends to share and pass on- like stuff about animal abuse or other such things. Nothing wrong with that, of course, but she pushes all the guilt buttons if you don't do her bidding: if you don't share, you have no heart. If you don't share, you're not human. If you don't share, you care about nothing...and on and on.

    Frankly, I don't like someone telling me what to pass along to others or to post on my own page. I tried it once, and got no response anyway. This seems like an attempt at control to me. I'd never dream of telling anyone else what they "should" do like that!

    Yes, I know I could "unfriend" her or stop following her posts, but that would seem mean. Although I'm a little bit tempted....nah. As long as I can vent about it, I'm ok.
         
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        01-07-2013, 02:12 PM
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    Showing
    If she's like that, I'd hardly call her a friend.

    People might try that garbage with me ONCE. If they want to stay friends, they don't try it a second time.

    If you continue to allow her to push you around, that's your fault. You can't be a victim unless you're giving her permission to make you one.
         
        01-07-2013, 02:17 PM
      #3
    Foal
    I know what you mean... I really could go on and on about my experience about people who control people with guilt etc... Though it will take all freaking day to type it up.. *resists rant on epic level*
         
        01-07-2013, 02:21 PM
      #4
    Green Broke
    I have hid and unfriended people for less ... I just don't go to facebook to get force fed stuff I either don't believe, or want to feel pressured about ..

    Time for YOU to take control ... hide her posts! Lol
         
        01-07-2013, 02:30 PM
      #5
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Speed Racer    
    If she's like that, I'd hardly call her a friend.

    People might try that garbage with me ONCE. If they want to stay friends, they don't try it a second time.

    If you continue to allow her to push you around, that's your fault. You can't be a victim unless you're giving her permission to make you one.
    Just to clarify, it isn't just me. It's general to all of her "friends".
         
        01-07-2013, 02:36 PM
      #6
    Trained
    I would just unfollow/unfriend her. I did that with someone quite similar to who you described and to another person who was continually ranting about her ex.

    I also unfriended someone who went on a tear right before the elections about how uneducated anyone who voted for the other candidate. She vowed to unfriend anyone who voted for that candidate because they could be no friends of hers. So I waved bye bye and it was completely unrelated to whether I voted for her candidate of choice! "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
         
        01-07-2013, 02:42 PM
      #7
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by GlassPlatypus    
    Just to clarify, it isn't just me. It's general to all of her "friends".
    But you can only control YOUR reaction to the situation ..
         
        01-07-2013, 02:43 PM
      #8
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Jake and Dai    
    I would just unfollow/unfriend her. I did that with someone quite similar to who you described and to another person who was continually ranting about her ex.

    I also unfriended someone who went on a tear right before the elections about how uneducated anyone who voted for the other candidate. She vowed to unfriend anyone who voted for that candidate because they could be no friends of hers. So I waved bye bye and it was completely unrelated to whether I voted for her candidate of choice! "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
    I had to unfriend a few at election time also .. I can be friends with someone I don't agree with .. I can't be friends with someone who REFUSES to agree to disagree ...
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        01-07-2013, 02:48 PM
      #9
    Super Moderator
    Facebook is a major waste of time and mental real estate. Don't buy into it.
         
        01-07-2013, 02:51 PM
      #10
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Jake and Dai    
    I would just unfollow/unfriend her. I did that with someone quite similar to who you described and to another person who was continually ranting about her ex.

    I also unfriended someone who went on a tear right before the elections about how uneducated anyone who voted for the other candidate. She vowed to unfriend anyone who voted for that candidate because they could be no friends of hers. So I waved bye bye and it was completely unrelated to whether I voted for her candidate of choice! "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
    Wow, some people! I have to wonder how she would even know, unless they admitted?

    Just wonderin', how do I hide posts on Facebook? I believe I saw how to do it once, but now I can't find it. I'm not yet ready to unfriend her, but this is getting out of hand. I'm new to FB, so I'm still learning how to use it.
         

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