13 year old girl...long rant
So the barn owner where I board was diagnosed with cancer last week… She has been pretty sick for sometime and I have been helping out more. Her husband and her have been taking care of his 13 year-old niece the last year or so. The niece has some bad family issues and basically lived with her mom having free reign on everything that she wanted….
So Stacy has been struggling with the niece ever since I have been boarding out there, there is a constant power struggle, I have been staying out of it totally other then just listening to the ranting.
To help out I have committed to do full barn cleanings 2-3 times a week. That includes cleaning stalls (6 horses in the barn) and then cleaning out the lean-tos, dumping the water troughs, exercising her show mare, and then checking on the horses for sickness, lameness, and she has a mini mare that is due in less then a month so keeping an eye out on her… but the niece is suppose to be helping when she gets home from school and on the weekends...
Stacy’s Uncle has been helping out tremendously. He is a newly retired guy and doesn’t like to sit still. Very nice quite guy (met him a few times in the summer). He has been weed whacking the fence lines, hauled in hay, brought more shavings in, and ordered the grain and hauled that over. He also has been helping out with chores and keeping everything in line.
So last night I got to the barn at about 3:30, I let all of the horses out to pasture, talked with the uncle and then started cleaning. He wasn’t sure where the keys were to the tractor, so we had to hand push the wagon to the manure pile (a little ways from the manure pile) Anyhow the niece got home about 4 ish and never came out the barn. I didn’t really care anyways but then she came out at like 5 and started yelling at me for cleaning “you need to leave right now…” I looked at her…. “Stacy said that since you are doing most of the work im not going to get paid, and I want a new IPod and they won’t buy me one unless I clean and I can’t clean if you are”
I was totally taken back at this; this girl has never spoken to me like this. So I told her to pick up a pitch fork and have at it…more people that do it the quicker it goes. “I can’t my wrist hurts; I have friends that are coming out to help so you need to leave”. I kept cleaning, I had just talked to Stacy the night before and she knew I was coming out to clean and she was very grateful of it. The uncle came into the barn and the niece just went off at him…”why are you still here?? Go take a shower and go home” he mumbled something under his breath and left. I scolded her for that too…he is only there to help out and really doesn’t have to do the stuff he is doing… “Well he is always here, it is soo annoying, he never leaves me alone,” then she stormed off.
About the time that I got the wagon full her two other friends came out… and the niece started complaining at me again… and then she went into a rant about how crabby Stacy has been lately. I couldn’t believe it… I guess I would be a little upset and snappy if I had been hit with something like she has been. I told her and her friends to get going on dumping the wagon. Of course they had to goof around the whole time and ya I was getting really pissy. I thought about leaving but im doing this for the horses and they don’t deserve to get treated badly because of some teenager. They got back in the barn and the niece stormed off. I filled another wagon and had the uncle go get the girls… she was yelling at him the whole time too about him needing to leave she isn’t going to get paid and yada yada… then the Stacy’s husband came home (yaaaaaaaaaaa) and had keys for the tractor but I only had one wagon load left at this time. He let the niece and the friends take it out to the pile. They started riding around in the bucket of the tractor!!!!! Umm I looked at the him and I was like “Ty, you may want to take care of that”…he was very mad… yelled at the girls and then the niece had a few choice words and stormed off.
So the Uncle and I brought all of the horses in and did the feedings and got the feed ready to go for Ty to feed in the morning. I told Ty about my little confrontation so if it ever got brought up then he knew already. He said that she just likes to half ass everything and is getting upset because she isn’t getting paid as much as she thinks she should. He also wanted me to take the keys to the tractor and put them with my tack so that the niece couldn’t take off with the tractor. He also asked if we could come out this weekend and scrap and drag the turnout pens.
Sorry it got soo long but I don’t ever remember being that disrespectful as a 13 year old…my mother would have kicked my behind and then some. I think they are scared to reprimand her for anything because she is the type that would call the cops for abuse (even if there was none). It is sad to see a kid like this…she is going to make life very tough for herself. What would any of you do in a situation like this? I want to help Stacy and Ty as much as possible since Stacy isn’t allowed in the barn anymore and Ty is scared of handling the horses. But I don’t think I can help if the niece is going to be a big witch like that. Grrrrr….caught in the middle.
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