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    03-02-2011, 09:03 PM
Green Broke
Sharing makeup....BAD idea. Just like you shouldnt share your toothbrush. Plus, unless you have the EXACT same colouring, the blush and concealer might not work for you.

Please please please make sure that your concealer matches your skin. The best place to test is on your cheek going down and to your jaw. Nothing looks more ridiculous then anyone who wears makeup that isnt the right colour, and you can see it on their jaw.

Get a really good eye makeup remover. Nivea is really good...both the the liquid and the cream. That way you can play around with your makeup and it'll be easy to remove without scrubbing.

If you can, go to a store that has a makeup counter and ask questions. They will let you know what colours will work for you best. Don't feel pressured to buy makeup for them, as for a is overpriced. Covergirl, L'Oreal, Maybelline and Revlon are all excellent brands to just start out with.

Since you aren't sure of what your style is right now....try buying clothes at outlet stores if possible as they will be less expensive....the store is just trying to move the clothes. It will make it a lot easier to get a different variety of clothes for less, letting you play around with what you think you like. Pick up things that you wouldnt normally. Try EVERYTHING on that catches your eye.

Guess what? Lots of adults don't have their lives together either! As a teenager, you are still discovering who you are, so don't feel like you should know already. It takes time, mistakes, learning and patience.

I always found when I am not happy on the inside, I am not happy with whats on the outside either. So possibly also try and look inside yourself and see what is going on in there. It will affect your outlook.

PS...Adults have access to the teen section and we are allowed to post on a topics that we feel could use an adult opinion on.
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    03-02-2011, 09:16 PM
VelvetsAB- Its not concealer for anywhere but under my eyes because of the dark circles there and it matches fine. And then its just a little black mascara, nothing drastic.

And I know adults have access to the teen section but I didnt know how many actually went in there, I figured I'd have a better shot in here :)
    03-03-2011, 10:20 AM
Originally Posted by Ray MacDonald    
Just remember:

You are more beautiful than you think, More talented than you think and more loved than you can ever imagined!
Worth repeating .. in fact, we should ALL look ourselves in the mirror and repeat that daily!
    03-03-2011, 10:30 AM
Originally Posted by paintsrule    
VelvetsAB- Its not concealer for anywhere but under my eyes because of the dark circles there and it matches fine. And then its just a little black mascara, nothing drastic.

And I know adults have access to the teen section but I didnt know how many actually went in there, I figured I'd have a better shot in here :)
Plenty of adults go to the teen talk to keep us teens' heads on straight, haha.

All I can tell you is when you look yourself in the mirror, no matter what, say "I am beautiful"
    03-03-2011, 12:28 PM
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I have to agree with others. It's normal around that age to be unsure. I was too, until I once "awakened" to the fact that I'm beautiful. And I agree with mbender too, cofindence makes the person to look more attractive most of times. But don't worry, this is something that you often gain with age too.

If you want to try something new, I suggest some small steps at first. Outlets are good like Velvets suggested. So are flea markets, you can fins good stuff also there.

Good luck! Remember that most of people are beautiful on their own way and most of times others don't notice small "flaws" that you see big .
    03-03-2011, 05:22 PM
Green Broke
You can also look on youtube and watch tons and tons of videos on make up and clothes! I love watching them! LOL
    03-03-2011, 05:42 PM
I'm with you, and I'm 19!

I grew up not wearing make-up, hair in a tight ponytail, ball cap and loose-fitting shirts with blue jeans and simple shoes. I was emotionally and physically abused growing up, cheated on in all of my relationships, and now I'm learning to become more confident with the help of my boss, an ex county deputy for Cook County Illinois.

The biggest thing is to pick something about yourself that you like, and accent it. To be blunt I've always been fond of my torso and my legs. I'm 5'6" and about 147 pounds, going to lose weight. (It's amazing how much you gain after a baby... I used to be about 118.)

My biggest suggestion is to do that. Use natural toned make-up, start small, like you can see in this video here.

Find a good friend who'll pick you up and be there for you. I have a few good friends, one of which is in Indiana. Even in a long-distance friendship they can cheer you up and help bring in some sense and fresh air.

The biggest thing I think is to just hang on. "Haters going to hate," and all that. Give yourself more credit, girlie. You'll make it through this. :3
    03-03-2011, 09:26 PM
I'm agreeing with the others here! I was 16 fourteen years ago (believe me it goes fast) and I remember feeling exactly the way you did! Honestly, and I mean HONESTLY, if you had any idea how much time people spend thinking about themselves instead if what you are wearing or look like, you would feel a whole lot better about being YOU.

As for makeup, buy some and play with it for hours in the bathroom, it really is the only way to learn how to put it on (side note: liquid eyeliner takes SKILL). Pick up a seventeen magazine, they usually have makeup tips in there.

And lastly, if you are on this forum you must ride horses. That takes guts and confidence! Not many people can do what we do! Sometimes when I have a really important meeting at work and have to talk to a group of powerful and rather scary people, just think to myself, I would love to see these guys ride my horse. I thought about that in high school with the "in" crowd and I still think about it today! Believe me, life and these emotions become much more manageable. Jr high and high school are some of the toughest years, no one makes it out unscathed! Sorry for my rambling. Hang in there!
    03-07-2011, 12:22 AM
So those girls who look so great, they feel the same way that you do, they just hide it better.

It is part of being a teenager to not like how you look, every single person alive thinks they could look better, that is why all those gorgeous celebrities get plastic surgery. Seriously I would give an arm or a leg or both to look like they do before surgery.

But what happens as you get a bit older is that this matters less. And really in my experience there is nothing much that helps this process than time.

I can tell you now as a 35 yr old, that I would rather date a moose with a great personality and a kind heart than a hot idiot. Only time and experience gets you there though.

For now I imagine you don't judge your friends on how they look, so how about being as kind to yourself as you are your friends?
I imagine your best friend could be disfigured in a car accident tomorrow and you would still love her. How about seeing that inner self in yourself?
    03-07-2011, 12:34 AM
When you look in that mirror, say ONLY, "I AM . . ." And don't fill in the blank. Only time and experience can do that. Keep that door open and see what comes wandering in, if you answer the question with that word "ugly", nothing else can get in. Leave the door open so that answer can come and take your time, and be quiet inside, so you can HEAR it when it comes. God does not usually shout.

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