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post #11 of 15 Old 07-18-2013, 05:18 PM
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Joe I wholeheartedly agree. Shalom
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post #12 of 15 Old 07-18-2013, 05:20 PM
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allow for decompression, NO PARTIES, NO RELEATIVES, no mass get togethers, no we gotta go here, gotta go there, No we gotta go to dinner, NO any of that mess. Dont plan, dont coerce, dont obligate, dont tell other people when he is coming, or invite them over on his behalf. Dont make or agree to any plans or allow others to do the same. Dont know how to convey this strongly enough. If he wants to go out , or have get togethers let him do that. Nothing sucks more than being gone from home a year, get hime and all you want to do is BE HOME, only to get dragged here there and the other like a show pony.
Omg. Wanna tell my mom this ^ for me? Lol

Agreed agreed agreed.

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post #13 of 15 Old 07-21-2013, 02:17 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone for suggestions! We live on a farm in the country so it's pretty quiet. And as for obligations, not a problem, as I always want him to myself. Spoke with him today and they have been pushed back a few days and he has a flu bug
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post #14 of 15 Old 07-21-2013, 02:50 PM
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Culture shock. After living one way with a certain culture (military) for that long, and that being the 'normal' it is tough to come back and see what used to be home as 'normal' again. Especially how people don't appreciate what they have here. Depression, anger, etc are all pretty much par for the course. Don't expect him to be the same or act the same or want to do the same things as he used to.

I don't know how pro-military or not where you live is, but remember- for Soldiers, what we do is just our job. I don't know anyone who thinks of themselves as a 'hero' or anything like that. There's always someone who gave more. We just do what we're trained to do and usually it works out. It's awkward and uncomfortable when people try to make it anything else, which can lead to a lot of wanting to avoid get togethers since civilians/other people who can't really relate always seem to want to talk about it.
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They leave as boys and return as messed up men.
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