Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Northern Illinois
I don't think your being selfish necessarily.
It is hard to pack up an move when you love where you are at. But it sounds like your BFs mother needs a change. And if her health is declining, I would go with what she needs. She is older, and most likely doesn't have nearly as much time left on this earth as you do. Someday, you will be able to move freely with your BF, wherever you two so please, but right now he has a responsibility to his mother. He needs to take care of her, and it sounds like he is doing just that. (Kudos to him by the way).
This doesn't mean that you feeling the way that you do is selfish. I would feel the same way. It is sometimes very hard to do the right thing. Talk to your BF about it, tell him you want to support his mother and him, but also tell him why you aren't looking forward to the change. Just having it out on the table will most likely make you feel better, even if it doesn't change the situation.
Oh and kudos to you as well for being supportive and thinking this through. It takes a big person to put the comfort of someone else above your own. Don't feel bad about not wanting the change though, I would consider it perfectly normal.
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