I can relate to the "hot jerks" fan club! When I was a younger gal, skinny and not too rough on the eyes, I had a checklist too. Had to be tall, none of those short guys (under 6 ft fah crine out loud!), didn't care hair & eyes but had to be clean shaven, extremely fit and athletic and enjoy EVERYTHING outdoors. Snow Skiing, Water skiing, Horseback riding, Hiking, Swimming, and then PARTAY like there was no tomorrow and dance til he dropped. Oh yea, no drugs, no lies, no abuse, and utterly devoted to me. I had no use for anyone but THE Mr. Right.
I sat at home a LOT of nights. Until I figured out that I was in no way looking to get married, I just wanted fun, and understood the concept of Mr. Right Now. Then I started having fun. Eventually, I met a guy who golfs (I HATE golf) and is very cerebral and logical. He's about 6 ft, mostly clean shaven and absolutely doesn't meet any of the other criteria, except he has learned to love the horses after 20 some odd years and is learning to ride. When we first met, he didn't know which end the hay went in and didn't care. We've been married 22 years in Nov and I can't imagine being married to one of the other Hot Jerks who got up and kissed themselves in the mirror every morning.
The point of this whole ramble is, give him and lots of other guys a good go round and enjoy them all for what they are. When I say that, I don't mean you have to sleep with all or any of them, just go on a date and have fun.