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post #11 of 24 Old 01-22-2009, 09:06 AM
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Sometimes anti-depressants can help. Often clinical depression is caused by a chemical imbalance that drugs can correct; that's the case for my father, as he doesn't really have events that triggered his depression. But even if the depression isn't necessarily initially caused by a chemical imbalance, your quality of life may be improved by anti-depressant medication. It all depends on the individual, though, and any drugs should be kept to the minimum necessary for a good quality of life.

Go talk to a doctor, counsellor or therapist. The internet can't diagnose whether this is clinical depression or something else - there are many reasons why you could be upset, everything from still going through the grieving process to hormones going crazy as you're growing up. It's probably a combination of many factors.

Don't be ashamed if things that 'ought' to work don't. One of the things I have learned from my father's depression is that things that 'ought' to help often don't; you have to find the thing that helps you, however odd it may be. Illness doesn't always follow storybook or layman logic.

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post #12 of 24 Old 01-22-2009, 11:12 AM Thread Starter
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Lol. Thanks guys. I guess I just kinda had to vent as well, in my first post on the thread.
I don't feel as bad as I did last night... simetimes it just comes and goes in quick, emotional bursts...

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post #13 of 24 Old 01-22-2009, 11:15 AM
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haha! Well I am happy that you are feeling better.

And hey! Don't worry we all have our moments! After all we are humans

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post #14 of 24 Old 01-22-2009, 04:26 PM
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The shortest solution I would suggest it to stand and fight your fears/anxieties. People who try to find shortcuts aren't brave enough to face their fears.

I am sure you will be able to come out of this situation, if and only if you try to keep yourself busy at work (that is any kind of work). Involve yourself into different activities, perhaps organize a social event or something.

The more you'll be within and around people the better it is. Thinking too much and staying alone will only make things worst.

That's what I think.

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That is one way I have worked though similar problems and it works some of the time. Buried myself in work, And I agree with Free_sprtd, my faith helps me with problems like that. But my faith is a personal thing and I love that about it.

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Do you have considered a therapy? It takes a time to "get along" with the loss but if it seems that you get stuck on it it would be good to start search ways that help you go ahead in your life and become happy again. Maybe your issues and unbalanced state have prevented you to deal with your loss properly when it happened?

I would suggest you to talk with a professional like psychiatrist and let him/her estimate your situation and which would be the best way to handle with it just now.

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Britt, I've been depressed and I've been on anti-depressants. There definitely is a place for AD's in the world, but at your age I don't think it should be considered so lightly. Seems like your entire family thinks a pill will fix it. It doesn't. All it does is break the chemical cycle to allow you to get your head on straight again. So, I agree with all those that have posted that you need to talk to someone. It may or may not be a psychiatrist, but start with your regular doctor. Depression is serious business, but so is drug reliance which is not the same as addiction. Your emotions are in turmoil, period. That's your age and it sucks, but that's life. Find someone OUTSIDE your family to talk to and get information from. I really don't think your family is in a position to help you through this. They do not sound strong enough. Please don't think that means in any way they are lesser people or anything because I say that. It's just who they are and everyone is different. Accept that emotions go all over the map and learn how to deal with your different emotions/levels. You are looking outside for an answer and I congratulate you for that. Keep going, don't stop here.
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Britt, I've been depressed and I've been on anti-depressants. There definitely is a place for AD's in the world, but at your age I don't think it should be considered so lightly. Seems like your entire family thinks a pill will fix it. It doesn't. All it does is break the chemical cycle to allow you to get your head on straight again. So, I agree with all those that have posted that you need to talk to someone. It may or may not be a psychiatrist, but start with your regular doctor. Depression is serious business, but so is drug reliance which is not the same as addiction. Your emotions are in turmoil, period. That's your age and it sucks, but that's life. Find someone OUTSIDE your family to talk to and get information from. I really don't think your family is in a position to help you through this. They do not sound strong enough. Please don't think that means in any way they are lesser people or anything because I say that. It's just who they are and everyone is different. Accept that emotions go all over the map and learn how to deal with your different emotions/levels. You are looking outside for an answer and I congratulate you for that. Keep going, don't stop here.
I know that only too well (the part that is bolded). Last year, I was on sleeping pills so much that I built up an immunity to them and have had to start taking two sleeping pills instead of one just to get to sleep... Lol. I took sleeping pills roughly 5 nights a week for about eleven months and now I take two sleeping pills at a time about once or twice a week to help me sleep... I wasn't addicted to them, but I relied on them to feel like I got a good nights sleep.

Anyway, that was way off topic. I tried to stay pretty busy today... my cousin came up and we watched a movie, went to my friends and to te tack store, then went to my uncles, cleaned out a trailer in preperation for some other family members to move in it, and rode horses for about two hours... and I've had a great time and haven't even thought about feeling bad, lol.

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Well, your reply again just reinforces to me that your family is all about the quick-fix-in-a-box. Not the way to get through life. Staying busy is good for sure, but allow yourself time to think and mourn and moon and generally be melancholy. We all need time to get our thoughts together.
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let me tell you another quick solution, invite all of us to your house and we'll have a party!!! That'll definitely take you out of whatever problems you have

So when shall we come?

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let me tell you another quick solution, invite all of us to your house and we'll have a party!!! That'll definitely take you out of whatever problems you have

So when shall we come?

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Lol. We can have parties online, too.

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