Ok so you said you are older by 2 years, I'm just wondering how old are you? Early teens, mid ect.
Your sister seems to be the immature one from the stories you have shared. In your case I would try and become interested in her life. Show her that you actually care do about her. You already do care Iím guessing, but perhaps you donít show her in ways she understands. For example by saying you donít like her bf, your looking out for her. But she may think youíre just jealous because you donít have a bf and you want to ruin it all.
She may think you donít care because you donít go and cheer her on with her hobbies. Once she starts to see that you do really care she may start to change her attitude towards you. It will be really hard to do this and will take a lot of time and effort.
When she does cause arguments try and be the strong one by resolving them or by not arguing back. Fighting with people doesnít get you anywhere.
Now saying your Dad supports her more than you. He may just like the idea of Tae Kwon Do more than horses. This isnít your fault. He may think Tae Kwon Do offers more life skills than horse riding or something
Maybe your sister is trying to act all grown up and is feeling a bit insecure about herself which is why she gets angry with you and tells you off about dishes ect.
As for you not approving of her boyfriend. She knows you donít like him; thatís all you need to say on the matter. Itís important you support her in what she wants too. Itís her life. You need to let her live it how she wants. She needs to make her own mistakes in order to learn. And hey this guy might turn out to be a nice guy. If not she'll learn from it... well hopefully she'll learn from it
I have a much older brother who has gone through a lot of drug abuse problems, at times its been very hard to deal with. I also have a brother 3 yrs younger than me and a sister who is 11. Iím 20 atm =D My family has also had problems with the police. It was nothing serious. I wonít go into that but it took me a long time to forgive them.
That yr I went through my rebellion. Haha It was my last yr of high school. I thought my mum didnít understand me or care about me. I started smoking and binge drinking. I hated the life I had and who I was as a person. I played victim and blamed my family and everyone around me for my problems.. yada yada you know how the story goes =p
But anyway I got through all that. I learnt that I am responsible for every situation Iím in. I can not blame anyone else but myself. If I donít like something I need to change it, not the people around me.
When I was younger I didnít really have a close relationship with any of my siblings. I would fight a lot with my younger brother. Especially when we became teenagers. As weíve all grown older weíre grown closer.
I think every family goes through their fare share of family fighting/arguing. You just need to learn to accept each other and live with who they are as a person. They may not be everything you like or want them to be. Thatís ok because they need to have their own life journey too. And in most cases your family cares about you way more than you think. They just donít know how to show it.
Haha Well thatís my essay. Hope it makes sense and helps in some way.