anxiety disorder forum

[PurpleMonkeyWrench]

Originally Posted by AnalisaParalyzer    

okay, need a little help here.

Significant other said "get on meds, you need help, etc"
Now, I've got the meds, I've got the help, I get
"we're not speaking, your on drugs."
"is that what your therapist said? Go cry to her"
"quit trying to be all high and mighty, your therapist isnt here"

I got on the meds and in the program to help our relationship, to help me see straight and communicate without fear or fits of rage, be them self harming or otherwise.

These comments and thought processes hurt. Im not on drugs, I take whats prescribed. And he told me tog et the prescription. Its not high and mighty, its calm and quiet. Just because im not yelling doesnt mean im not trying. The go cry to your therapist, that's just mean.


I know a lot of people on here have advised me to get rid of this "baggage". But my question here,

What do you guys do when somebody uses your problems to hurt you?

I would leave. I was engaged when I was in the middle of all of my problems. One day I just left. I had enough of the crap and I walked away and never looked back. Sounds like he has issues of his own that he needs to take care of.

[AnalisaParalyzer]

I've heard that one... its a whole mess right now, but some days he tries and some days he falls off. I know what I should be doing for me, but I think he's got something to give if he could just chill.

I kinda meant more in the moment. When your faced with a situation and theres no "break time" and you need to stay calm right NOW. How do you keep calm without letting your brain panic and shut down? How do you stay in the conversation and not clam up and become a shaking nervous wreck? I guess a method of impromptu courage gathering or something? Anybody?

[gogaited]

Originally Posted by PurpleMonkeyWrench    

How many of you were actually DIAGNOSED with these disorders?

Me. 52. Have had severe anxiety and depression my entire life. I don't go to movies, restaurants, etc. I sit in a corner with my back against the wall at Dr.'s. If it's crowded, I wait outside. Haven't found anything that helps the depression (except horses) but Ativan helps with the panic attacks. A new wrinkle developed after my best friend died in her sleep last year. So now just as I'm falling asleep, yep, major panic.

[dbarabians]

Has anyone tried to join a therapy group for anxiety? Most areas have one. I have several clients that improved after joining a therapy group. Shalom

[Corazon Lock]

I always wanted to do group therapy, but in Iowa the mental health stuff is bad.

AnalisaParalyzer,
I would seriously reconsider your relationship. I was in the worst shape of my life when I was dating my ex. I thought he was a lifesaver, a security blanket for me. I just read my diary last night. He never treated me right. He always played on my insecurities and tried to make himself better than me. I felt so much better when I dumped him. Plus, I learned that I could be independent and not lean on a guy for support.

Counseling has helped me immensely. I had to go through a couple of counselors before I found one that worked, but the one I go to now is amazing. She has helped me be so much more confident and to believe in myself, which I believe is a lot of the struggle. I also, with patience, found the right medications that help even out my emotions and mood swings. I suffered all through high school. I'm now a sophomore in college, and I'm finally enjoying life. It's such a great feeling. :) I no longer feel trapped or scared every single night. I can do things with confidence and look forward to a future. It's just amazing!

[PurpleMonkeyWrench]

Originally Posted by AnalisaParalyzer    

i've heard that one... its a whole mess right now, but some days he tries and some days he falls off. I know what I should be doing for me, but I think he's got something to give if he could just chill.

I kinda meant more in the moment. When your faced with a situation and theres no "break time" and you need to stay calm right NOW. How do you keep calm without letting your brain panic and shut down? How do you stay in the conversation and not clam up and become a shaking nervous wreck? I guess a method of impromptu courage gathering or something? Anybody?

Oh I don't stay calm I fly off in a fit or rage. I see red. I'm no help with this one, sorry

[PurpleMonkeyWrench]

Originally Posted by dbarabians    

Has anyone tried to join a therapy group for anxiety? Most areas have one. I have several clients that improved after joining a therapy group. Shalom

I've joined group therapies, but for other reasons than anxiety. Well, I was ordered to go to them so I had no choice. It is comforting to hear what everyone else has to say and it takes light off of your problems for a while which is also a relief. I also found that most others in the group are farther along in their recovery and have some wonderful tips and suggestions.

[dbarabians]

Group therapy is a tool that can be used to successfully treat anxiety disorder.
Along with medication and individual therapy the success of the patient increases greatly. Good luck everyone. Shalom

[AnalisaParalyzer]

Thats happened once or twice too purple, lol.