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    01-13-2013, 05:50 PM
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Foal
Any other wives/girlfriends of otr truck drivers?

So my husband just graduated from school to be a truck driver, and just got hired to a company here in Mn that does over the road trucking. His cousin and him will be doing team driving once they complete training which he just started today and will be gone for a month.
Im pretty independent so it does not really bother me but I feel like im going to have a hard time adjusting to him being gone for 3 weeks and back home for only 4 days. Just wondering how women out there cope and if it starts to get easier?
     
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    01-13-2013, 07:10 PM
  #2
Green Broke
My husband is home 24/7,-I wish he would be making some money to pay HIS bills! But he doesn't. We will be out of money soon. Be thankful for any money a guy brings into the relationship. Think of the service wives that are left alone for a year or more. Truck driving is hard, be supportive & be grateful for the $$-hope you get insurance- that is invaluable. A guy that is willing to work & be supportive is a plus in my book. I had that for awhile but not now. Hope you two come to an understanding.
     
    01-13-2013, 07:53 PM
  #3
Green Broke
We started our own trucking company a couple of years ago. When we first started we moved to TX to haul oversized oil field pieces. It was hard at first because we made a complete 180* from working on a ranch together. We ate, slept and worked together. Then we moved, started trucking and he was gone for several weeks at a time and even did a run that lasted almost three months. It was a big change.
Now we just moved back to NV and he is home more. He hauls hay from NV and Ut to CA. And stuff from the port back out to the gold mines here in NV. Just waiting for the spring run for hauling calves.
Like you, I am independent and I lived by myself for years before meeting hubby. I can take care of things around the house that need to be done if he isn't around.
I think the most I hear from other couples that are in the trucking business, and I completely agree, it is so important to remain communicating, support each other and trust. I support him by making sure there is money in the bank for him to run on, by staying current on the billing and make sure that everything is up to date. And he trusts that I am doing it and I am not just spending those checks as soon as they hit the bank account on frivolous stuff and he is sitting at the fuel pump with a declined card. He supports me by obviously making the money to pay those bills and keep the household going. When he gets home he helps with things that I have a hard time doing on my own around the house.
I have seen trust eat away at relationships too. I don't do anything that I wouldn't be comfortable with him doing, he has the same respect for me. It is pretty easy to make up crazy scenarios in your head when all you have to do is stare at blacktop and think. It is just as easy to do so sitting at home by yourself. This is where communication is so important.
It also doesn't hurt to go on a trip with him once in awhile so you have an idea what it is like for him out there. I go on a couple of short trips usually just hauling cows. I went last weekend matter of a fact, it was about -10* and we had to wear heavy coats in the truck to stay warm, the heater couldn't keep up. He just called me, he said he wanted to get a motel room so he can take a hot shower and watch some TV( it is supposed to be -25* tonight where he is at). He has spent the last two days fighting snow and chaining/unchaining hauling cows to UT. Knowing how cold I was sitting in that truck last weekend, I gladly told him to get a decent room with a hot shower and good heater! LOL

I wish the best of luck to you guys
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    01-13-2013, 08:45 PM
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Foal
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Originally Posted by Cacowgirl    
My husband is home 24/7,-I wish he would be making some money to pay HIS bills! But he doesn't. We will be out of money soon. Be thankful for any money a guy brings into the relationship. Think of the service wives that are left alone for a year or more. Truck driving is hard, be supportive & be grateful for the $$-hope you get insurance- that is invaluable. A guy that is willing to work & be supportive is a plus in my book. I had that for awhile but not now. Hope you two come to an understanding.
Yeah My brother in law is away in afghanistan for a year and his wife is not the type of person that likes to be left alone, she's kind of a princess haha. To where I am glad that he is gone just because I think we will appreciate eachother more. I am super grateful that he is supporting us and making money, especially since I am going to college and only work full time in the summer so I am very happy that we will have a steady income.
     
    01-13-2013, 08:49 PM
  #5
Foal
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Originally Posted by COWCHICK77    
We started our own trucking company a couple of years ago. When we first started we moved to TX to haul oversized oil field pieces. It was hard at first because we made a complete 180* from working on a ranch together. We ate, slept and worked together. Then we moved, started trucking and he was gone for several weeks at a time and even did a run that lasted almost three months. It was a big change.
Now we just moved back to NV and he is home more. He hauls hay from NV and Ut to CA. And stuff from the port back out to the gold mines here in NV. Just waiting for the spring run for hauling calves.
Like you, I am independent and I lived by myself for years before meeting hubby. I can take care of things around the house that need to be done if he isn't around.
I think the most I hear from other couples that are in the trucking business, and I completely agree, it is so important to remain communicating, support each other and trust. I support him by making sure there is money in the bank for him to run on, by staying current on the billing and make sure that everything is up to date. And he trusts that I am doing it and I am not just spending those checks as soon as they hit the bank account on frivolous stuff and he is sitting at the fuel pump with a declined card. He supports me by obviously making the money to pay those bills and keep the household going. When he gets home he helps with things that I have a hard time doing on my own around the house.
I have seen trust eat away at relationships too. I don't do anything that I wouldn't be comfortable with him doing, he has the same respect for me. It is pretty easy to make up crazy scenarios in your head when all you have to do is stare at blacktop and think. It is just as easy to do so sitting at home by yourself. This is where communication is so important.
It also doesn't hurt to go on a trip with him once in awhile so you have an idea what it is like for him out there. I go on a couple of short trips usually just hauling cows. I went last weekend matter of a fact, it was about -10* and we had to wear heavy coats in the truck to stay warm, the heater couldn't keep up. He just called me, he said he wanted to get a motel room so he can take a hot shower and watch some TV( it is supposed to be -25* tonight where he is at). He has spent the last two days fighting snow and chaining/unchaining hauling cows to UT. Knowing how cold I was sitting in that truck last weekend, I gladly told him to get a decent room with a hot shower and good heater! LOL

I wish the best of luck to you guys
Thanks for the good advice! Im not that type of person to spend spend spend, but I know that if I was it would really stress him out, but you brought up a good point. And I don't want to do that, I want to be supportive of him and make things easier for him not harder. I will be going on a few trips with them, although probably not for very long because he will be team driving with his cousin. Im not sure I can stand to be in that small of a space with those two lol.
     
    01-13-2013, 08:54 PM
  #6
Green Broke
LOL, understandable! The first run he ever made happened to be to NV from TX. I was so excited to go and get to see home. It was supposed to be a fast trip, I ended up being in that truck for almost three weeks! I went nuts! At one point he had to let me out on the side of the road so I could go run a round like a dog..LOL!
So now I just go on the cow loads because they are fast and short..
     
    01-13-2013, 10:21 PM
  #7
Foal
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Originally Posted by COWCHICK77    
LOL, understandable! The first run he ever made happened to be to NV from TX. I was so excited to go and get to see home. It was supposed to be a fast trip, I ended up being in that truck for almost three weeks! I went nuts! At one point he had to let me out on the side of the road so I could go run a round like a dog..LOL!
So now I just go on the cow loads because they are fast and short..
Thats so funny! I would probably be doing the same thing. Im excited to go so I get to spend more time with him but I have a feeling its not something I will be doing a whole lot of lol. I wish they ran more west coast, because I love montana/washington but they do mainly east coast runs.
     
    01-14-2013, 12:03 AM
  #8
Foal
I was an otr flatbedder for a while. His hometime actually doesnt sound too bad. I was doin good if I could get one day at home per week I was gone. I think there are some trucking forums that have girfriend/wife sections. It would be worth checking out. You could get a lot of advice from wives of drivers who have been doing it for several years
     
    01-14-2013, 02:23 PM
  #9
Foal
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Originally Posted by ls6firebird    
i was an otr flatbedder for a while. His hometime actually doesnt sound too bad. I was doin good if I could get one day at home per week I was gone. I think there are some trucking forums that have girfriend/wife sections. It would be worth checking out. You could get a lot of advice from wives of drivers who have been doing it for several years
Thanks, that's a good idea and I will have to look around and check some out!
     

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