We started our own trucking company a couple of years ago. When we first started we moved to TX to haul oversized oil field pieces. It was hard at first because we made a complete 180* from working on a ranch together. We ate, slept and worked together. Then we moved, started trucking and he was gone for several weeks at a time and even did a run that lasted almost three months. It was a big change.
Now we just moved back to NV and he is home more. He hauls hay from NV and Ut to CA. And stuff from the port back out to the gold mines here in NV. Just waiting for the spring run for hauling calves.
Like you, I am independent and I lived by myself for years before meeting hubby. I can take care of things around the house that need to be done if he isn't around.
I think the most I hear from other couples that are in the trucking business, and I completely agree, it is so important to remain communicating, support each other and trust. I support him by making sure there is money in the bank for him to run on, by staying current on the billing and make sure that everything is up to date. And he trusts that I am doing it and I am not just spending those checks as soon as they hit the bank account on frivolous stuff and he is sitting at the fuel pump with a declined card. He supports me by obviously making the money to pay those bills and keep the household going. When he gets home he helps with things that I have a hard time doing on my own around the house.
I have seen trust eat away at relationships too. I don't do anything that I wouldn't be comfortable with him doing, he has the same respect for me. It is pretty easy to make up crazy scenarios in your head when all you have to do is stare at blacktop and think. It is just as easy to do so sitting at home by yourself. This is where communication is so important.
It also doesn't hurt to go on a trip with him once in awhile so you have an idea what it is like for him out there. I go on a couple of short trips usually just hauling cows. I went last weekend matter of a fact, it was about -10* and we had to wear heavy coats in the truck to stay warm, the heater couldn't keep up. He just called me, he said he wanted to get a motel room so he can take a hot shower and watch some TV( it is supposed to be -25* tonight where he is at). He has spent the last two days fighting snow and chaining/unchaining hauling cows to UT. Knowing how cold I was sitting in that truck last weekend, I gladly told him to get a decent room with a hot shower and good heater! LOL
I wish the best of luck to you guys