We stopped trying to have a Valentines Day after the first two years. Year one, James broke a Femur ( I had a day ski tour to a scenic stop for lunch planned). Year two, I had a disco shoulder (He had a snow shoe to a scenic spot for bunch planned).
If we plan a romantic day, one of us ends up medicated with a hospital visit. We just do what we do every day. Who ever is up first, brings the other coffee in bed.