Very upsetting update :(
well previously stated our MIL sister was getting involved in this which we did not want her to but she did anyways and it turned into a disaster! I will copy the email so i don't get things twisted but the things that were said were not true (both steph and I know this) and everything seemed to be blamed on me for being jealous??? what am I jealous of I will never know but if thats what this stupid woman needs to think to get through her day....Ugh..i just wish i could give her a good slap in the face LOL
this is the email sent to my SIL- My responses will be in red.
well, she said that she only gets to see Clint 2-3 times per year and that is the only reason. She also said that Clint wants to see them and when they asked Danielle she blamed it on you that you were the one that didn't want them to come down for a few days.( I never spoke to anyone about this except my husband and my SIL so where they got that when "they" asked me i blamed it on my SIL...I never mentioned my SIL in anything other than she needs a vacation and their parents coming along is not a vacation..only thing i mentioned about her but it got twisted around once again on me)
Stephanie, I know you don't want to hear this, but they are hurt and she was crying and said they don't have girls to get together with, so they only want to see their sons. Also, I think you should make sure that Danielle is truly your friend. (What I'm getting from this is that my MIL said some untrue things about me to say to make sure im really her friend? WTF??? i would never say anything that would make anyone think otherwise)
I heard her out and I understand her point; they feel like you and Danielle are constantly getting together to go against anything they say or do and they understand that Danielle is jealous, but they do not understand that you are - they don't understand you being that way because you never have been.( Once again i'm being blamed. The only reason they feel like we gang up on them is because how much she interferes in our lives that is not necessary so of course we are going to stick together! nobody else cares how we feel except for me and my SIL..and I dont understand why they think I'm jealous and have always been that way? I dont see or talk to them so why am I jealous? Steph is not jealous she is tired of our MIL meddlilng in ever part of their lives) Maybe you are just waking up to the L's ways and it is getting to you - I am concerned for your marriage at this point. Do not let other's influence your decisions - look into your own heart.( the only reason anyone should be concerned is because our MIL cannot keep her nose out of our business especially my SIL and her husband)
I don't want to get in the middle but after hearing her out, I understand what she is saying. She explained to me that she tries to do everything she can for all of you and she never even got a birthday call from Danielle for her 50th birthday. Personally, I would be upset.( me nor my husband sent her a card or called because we didnt know it was her birthday..i dont know my own parents birthdays let alone his mothers so that was not on purpose..my SIL neve sent a card or called either but I'm the one that looks bad) I am starting to understand these things especially now that I am watching Katie go through similar issues with Jack's mom. It seems that she is now finding petty things to go at Katie with to push Katie further away and Karen and Harry are feeling that is what you are doing.
I am going to back away from this - I just hope you understand that all I want for you and Jeff is to make it - that marriage is difficult enough - please do not let others influence how you handle your family and marriage issues.