Originally Posted by Cinder
And who gets to choose what that point is?...
I guess the guy she wants to attract. A woman can FEEL incredibly sexy and comfortable with herself, and that is fine by me. I think people should figure out what they are willing to do or not do with regard to fitness, and then accept the result. I'm carrying excess weight because I'm not willing to do the things to get rid of it...it simply isn't worth it to me.
Sex requires two. So if the other person is in synch with someone else's values and resulting shape, then that is "sexy". My wife & I have gained weight over the last 26 years of marriage, but we see each other thru the lens of those 26 years of shared happiness, setbacks, tears, caring, kids...she is beautiful to me, but I wouldn't expect a 20 year old guy to understand, any more than I would expect a young woman to see ME thru that 26-years shared life lens.
One of the nice things about sharing a lifetime with someone is that you see each other in a way no one else does...and it doesn't matter what others think.
No idea if that answers your question. But realistically, I don't go to the beach wearing tiny swim trunks. My wife is the only one with our special "26-years" glasses. Everyone else would see me and start clawing their eyes...
There is a reason my mare grunts when we're going uphill.