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post #1 of 7 Old 08-08-2013, 05:56 PM Thread Starter
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That Awkward Age Growing Up

Hi everyone! So I'm not really sure what to do. Three years ago my family moved from Pennsylvania to Colorado, and I got to bring my lesson horse with me as my own. Since then, I've gotten a second horse, started dating my best friend who's still in PA, and graduated high school with plans of continuing my horse education with out going to college (I want to be a Therapeutic Riding Instructor and Parelli Professional), and right now I'm not sure what to do. I don't like being in CO anymore, I really only have 1 friend, my family's driving me crazy. I still have 3 best friends (including my boyfriend) in PA, one I met riding and we always rode together. I hate riding by myself, I have a very small round pen to work my horses in and I hate it. Should I move back to PA now, in a year from now, or after I get the certifications I need (we've decided that it would be better for my horse future if I stay in CO)? Please tell me what you think I should do, I'm very confused.
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post #2 of 7 Old 08-08-2013, 09:33 PM
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Moving out on your own or with room mates is expensive and not easy to do working minimum wage jobs. If I were you and you're parents willing to keep a roof over your head I would stay put until at least the certification is done. Even then you wont start out earning a lot so consider staying longer until you gain more experience, making it easier to bring in more income.

It may seem like forever to you right now but trust me, in a few years you'll realize just how fast things go by and waiting a bit isn't really all that bad.
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post #3 of 7 Old 08-08-2013, 11:30 PM
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You know there is the saying the grass is always greener.

Right now you have the important things covered, a roof over your head, you are going to school, you are building a future, it may not be the funnest of times, but you should figure out how to make it work and do what you can.

Moving across the country is just going to create a whole new set of challenges and obstacles.

Probably not what you want to hear, but you will have to deal with people who are hard to get along with your whole life, your family is no different except for the fact that you are related to them. Running from problems never solves anything.
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post #4 of 7 Old 08-09-2013, 01:52 AM
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Moving yourself and presumably your horses all the way PA just b/c you have more friends their is a bit extreme. There are plenty of people in CO to make friends with. Barns offer people to potentially ride with - and a lot of them have great facilities. You would be with like minded people and have use of a bigger round pen. ;) Otherwise, if you actually want to be in PA b/c it is just where you want to be, you can easily research then fly there and see what opportunities there are, how feasible, etc.,. I personally feel that if a region does not agree with you, then it doesn't and it probably never will.

There is just as much horse sense as ever, but the horses have most of it.
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post #5 of 7 Old 08-09-2013, 01:39 PM
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hate to break it to you, but you need to move on from the old friends back home. You're not really dating someone half a country away. Sounds like you may be setting your self up for a bad time when you realize junior isnt sitting at home in PA waiting on you to visit.
Focus on the here and now, find a community college and look at a business degrees. Learn about horses on the side. That will increase your circle of friends and have you not spinning your wheels going nowhere.
Lots of self employed and start up businesses fail because people may know the subject of the business, but nothing about actually running a business.
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post #6 of 7 Old 08-09-2013, 02:14 PM
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get your future settled BEFORE moving. get those certifications, work with people in the field, get experience and a reputation, and THEN if you decide you still want to uproot your life, do it. It is very hard to start a career from the ground up anywhere, especially if you still have to use other means (part time/full time job) to support yourself. not to mention you also have pets that need to be cared for if you intend to keep them with you. put yourself above others. you will make more friends as others have suggested in barns and by putting yourself out there. i moved to new york by myself and met some of my closes friends through my job after i left my other friends behind. that's life.
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post #7 of 7 Old 08-10-2013, 03:18 PM
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Don't do anything as long as you're confused.

Set some goals and the work out a plan on how you're going to achieve them.

I think if you'll read these forums a little bit almost every young lady on here has a dream of being some sort of horse professional.

Dreams in general are good if it motivates you to achieve....but the fact of the matter is, horses serve no purpose anymore other that to pleasure there owner. Each year, fewer and fewer people own horses. They are a luxury, not a necessity. (excluding the Amish).

My suggestion is to find a career out side of horses where your earning potential is high. Get the training and education necessary to find a job in that career.

When you're financially secure then enjoy your horse passion and have loads of fun doing it.
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