Bearers of bad new

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        04-17-2012, 01:21 PM
    Bearers of bad new

    This really grates on me and I hear it all too often. Someone is facing a particular surgery and next thing you know people are quick to bombard the prospective patient with horror stories of surgery gone awry. This morning at our usual watering hole, one of the gals expressed concern about a build up of fluid in one lower lung. Immediately, one of the gals began with a horror story. I began making a humming noise as I know it throws the first gal"s hearing out of whack. Unfortunately, she asked the story teller what she had said and someone else offered a repeat of the story. Infomation was neither needed nor appreciated. These woman are supposed to be friends yet I find that type of information to be malicious. If allowed to continue one often tries to outdo the other with no regard for the person who's hearing this. What gives?
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        04-17-2012, 01:29 PM
    Why don't you ask the story teller?
        04-17-2012, 09:33 PM
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    Ask any first time pregnant woman how many horror stories they were told by "well meaning" women about deliveries!

    After my chemo treatments were done, some one actually told me that the treatments take 20 years off your life!

    Some people just love to scare, depress or shock others. Somehow it makes them feel better about themselves, something I just don't get and won't waste my time trying to understand.

    If you're not interested in hearing what's being said, walk away, that will say more then anything spoken can sometimes convey with less drama. Works for me.
        04-17-2012, 09:37 PM
    I don't really understand it either. At the ripe middle age of 40, I had my first cavity. Everyone I talked to tried to freak me out about getting the cavity filled despite my repeatedly asking them to respect the fact that having your first dental work at age 40 is a bit scary to begin with. Humans have brains, but so few seem to choose to use them.
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        04-17-2012, 09:39 PM
    A cavity filled huh? They go in through the skull with a big Black & Decker drill.....
        04-18-2012, 10:43 PM
    Originally Posted by waresbear    
    A cavity filled huh? They go in through the skull with a big Black & Decker drill.....

        04-18-2012, 11:44 PM
    Ya, I don't get it either. When I was preggers, I didn't tell my mom until I absolutely had to (I was married, no issues) because I didn't want to hear the stories. Sure enough, first chance she had after finding out she started. So I told her that I'm not her and if she doesn't have anything supportive and positive to say that she should talk about something else.

    I still hear this stuff all the time, either to me if I goof and tell somebody something, or a person's tale as it relates(?) to another person's current situation. I still tell these people to basically shut up. The level of rudeness depends on the story-teller.

    I also don't understand the constant complainers. My wrist hurts - I hurt my back - I have bowel problems -- yada yada yada. OK, y'know if I'm your friend you can cry on my shoulder; I'll be tolerant and even empathetic in some situations. But if you are someone I work with or for, or meet every other week at the grocery store, keep it to yourself or find someone else to be your friend. Why, oh WHY do these people think that I care when I don't even know where they live? Really.
        04-19-2012, 12:25 PM
    It probably comes from most Dr's being apathetic to their patients concerns. Alot of this stuff is routine to alot of Dr's so they get dismissive to peoples concerns or simply don't discuss possible outcomes or side effects. It leaves other people to do the educating. While annoying, it may bring up questions the patient didn't know to ask.

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