For the anxiety, something pretty small and insignificant for most people has made an amazing difference for me. I am a huge fan of the tv show Doctor Who on the BBC (BBC America, Netflix), and in one episode the Doctor told someone that "Rule 7" is "Never run when you're scared." Probably because of the connection I have with that show and the Doctor in particular, that really resonated with me. For quite some time now, I've been drawing a Roman numeral 7 on the inside of my wrist so I can glance at it whenever I feel the anxiety building and the desire to flee a situation. It's helped so much that I'm considering making that "VII" my first tattoo. (I swear I'm not making this up. I know it probably sounds ridiculous, but it works for me.)
People totally underestimate the power of something like a tv show, a book series, a band, etc. In this day in age technology is everywhere, and while a lot of people preach to you "Just go outside, watching tv is unhealthy" I often beg to differ.
Now, I'm not saying drone into the tv for 20 hours straight, I'm saying that it is totally possible to get a connection to a tv show, music, celebrities, etc. Technology has never been so advanced in previous generations to the point where they were able to become so connected. Sure things can get unhealthy, but that's with relationships and obsessions in general, not specific to technological or fangirl obsessions. I know people who are obsessed with being healthy who actually overworked themselves. Technology is renowned for being bad, but in fact it's just another new thing the next generation is using as a tool.
For me, I like k-pop and j-rock. It stands for Korean Pop and Japanese Rock. Yeah, I get judged hardcore for it. A lot. I have not a clue what they're saying but I appreciate their music and personalities. The actors and musicians involved in the industry were a whole new breed of people I had never seen before, and they were held to higher standards than normal people. They trained up to 11 hours a day and were never, ever allowed to set a foot out of place. They were punished for doing drugs or being irresponsible. There were often "no dating" rules in a company until you were a certain age. That made me respect them, because they did it as a job and not as a glamour fest. Call me crazy, but watching them perform live makes me happy. Whenever I'm sad I go and watch a variety show featuring my favorite groups or watch a drama, or find out if there's a live stream of something I can watch.
It's completely understandable to me how someone can love Doctor Who, Merlin, Supernatural, One Direction, The Pretty Reckless, etc. Love who you want. Watch and be a fan of whatever you want. Everyone's mind is different and it is so common these days for kids to flock to the internet, tv, books, etc because they feel rejected by real life.
I'll be the first to admit that I started in books. I read until I had awful headaches.
Then I discovered the internet and found a new part of myself there. I got confident.
I learned so much and met new people (Albeit slowly and carefully) that I gained the confidence from them to find myself on my darkest days in quote on quote, "real life", and if you were to speak to me now you would never know i used to be shy and quiet, having anxiety attacks if even being left alone in a store with strangers. I have given speeches in front of hundreds of people, am instructing and working with people and their horses, and I attribute a good amount of it to the encouragement I got from the people I met here, on tumblr, on facebook, etc.
Just a thought on a touchy subject of mine...lol carry on~