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        11-06-2013, 07:53 PM
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    Green Broke
    Being taken advantage of? (rant-ish)

    Ugh, so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.

    I've dog sat a few times for my girlfriends Aunt over the past year. They pay me well, maybe two well, but I feel like I'm always left in less then ideal circumstances.

    1. The left me for one month last December with a 3 month old puppy who had giardia. This dog was crapping up a storm for 3 out of the 4 weeks. I also had to take him to the vet and buy him special food while they were gone (I was reimbursed obviously). Not to mention the intense medication, bleaching and cleaning regiment. Then I found out from the daughter the dog had it for a month because they don't keep up with cleaning, medication, etc.

    2. They constantly have packages coming to the house and I'm never their to get them. This means I have to drive all over to the post office, FedEx, or UPS to pick up the packages. I have two jobs and go to school full time, I don't have all the time in the world to run around and pick up their packages. Then they want me to open the packages and inventory them and e-mail them a list.

    3. Last time their boiler ran out of oil! This means I had to arrange time for the boiler people to come and fill the oil tank and restart the boiler. Then two days later the boiler crapped out because of a clogged pipe. That was two days I had to take half days of work.

    Now this time they are asking me to arrange a time for the boiler guy to come and service the boiler. I wouldn't care if it was my day off but they want me to take off of work for him to come!!

    I get it, stuff happens. Some things you have no control over. But why not service your boiler before you leave? Why not take care of your dogs illness before you go away? Why are you ordering stuff before you go away? It's hard to say no when your doing it for family. It's also hard for me to say no when she is paying me $50 a day.

    Am I over reacting? Would you expect your pet/house sitter to be doing the same? Should I suck it up or put my foot down?
         
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        11-06-2013, 08:07 PM
      #2
    Weanling
    Dear god, I would NEVER ask someone to do that.

    I've house sat before, she paid me 200, was welcome to her food. I stayed at her apartment, took care of her kitty. I didn't even have to check the mail.

    But I also don't like to inconvenience people so I would never that of somebody. Stuff like that should be taken care of before you leave.
         
        11-06-2013, 08:12 PM
      #3
    Green Broke
    My Goodness, that sounds absurd. I've dog sat before and was never responsible for more than the 3 dog's. They were Sharpei's and they required meticulous grooming because they are prone to skins issues. I stayed their, was welcome to food, was allowed to have a friend over and was paid well. I never had to take care of ANYTHING to do with their house, mail, etc and they also left a CC number with their vet in case of an emergency.

    I hate to say it, but I think you need to put your foot down and tell them no.
         
        11-06-2013, 08:20 PM
      #4
    Green Broke
    Yeah, I totally don't mind doing regular house chores! Mail, taking out the cans, keeping up with light cleaning. All the people I house sit for (i have a little word of mouth business) always comment that it doesn't even look like I was there when I come home.

    Also, I don't mind a few favors every once in a while and I totally get emergencies and unforeseen circumstances. But now I'm feeling like a doormat.

    I have a figure out a way to just put down my foot.
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        11-06-2013, 08:25 PM
      #5
    Showing
    Learn to say no. You're allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. You know it, they know it, and they're not going to stop until YOU put your foot down and say 'no more'.

    You're not the housekeeper, valet, handyman, or personal assistant. You're supposed to be the animal caregiver, nothing more. If you want them to treat you with respect, you have to demand it of them.

    Either find your backbone and learn to tell them no, or expect to keep being treated as a slave. Your call.
         
        11-06-2013, 08:30 PM
      #6
    Trained
    Well, to be honest.....yes you are overreacting. When I was in college I exercised and cared for peoples horses over the summer. Sometimes they would be there (just needed an extra hand), and sometimes out of town. The difference was, I had a written contract. But, if they called and asked me to do something else - and sometimes it was a really inconvenient "something else"...I did it for the same reason you do - they paid me well. Now, do they actually want you to miss work to meet the boiler guy, or are they just unaware you will be at work - or maybe a little remiss and inconsiderate by not inquiring about your schedule? If its the later case, you need to let them know it conflict w work. If it is the former case, you need to let them know what your bill will be (missed work, plus) for that particular effort - in advance. JMO
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        11-06-2013, 08:38 PM
      #7
    Green Broke
    They know I have work, on top of another job and full time nursing school. I gave them the times I'd be off which I could do, but none of them worked for the plumber. I do believe even asked me to take off or go in late so he can come Tuesday. Also, like I said, I TOTALLY don't mind doing favors. Problem is I feel like this is becoming a trend.
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        11-06-2013, 08:54 PM
      #8
    Weanling
    No offense, but you are clearly being used, but you can only be used if you allow yourself to be.

    It would seem that you consider $50.00 a fair price in exchange for the treatment you are receiving. If so, then quit complaining.

    The fact that it is family works both ways as they clearly have no problem with the situation.

    Bottom line, is it worth the fifty ? Your call. And only your call.
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        11-07-2013, 12:47 AM
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    Started
    Things happen... but it seems like quite a bit of coincidence for all of these things to be happening at the same time...

    If it's that big of a deal to you, then I would tell them that in the future they should have records of a clean bill of health for the dog, or have not introduced any new animals to the household within x amount of time.

    If you are not willing to deal with the package situation then I would tell them that you can't. Simply say that you are willing to care for the house and animals, but that you are unable to pick up packages from across town because of your school schedule. They should either arrange to have the packages left at the door, or they should pick them up upon return.

    I don't think that the boiler issue is one that they could necessarily prevent. Stuff happens in the house, and sometimes it's unexpected. Sucks that it had to be you dealing with it, but I would tell them IN ADVANCE that you expect payment for the days that you will be missing work due to any such issue. If they have problems with that, then work it out before the issue arises.

    Basically, tell them what you are and are not willing to do and what will require extra compensation. If they're expecting too much then do not put yourself in the situation. If you can work it out, then do so. If I found that my dog were ill during my vacation I would feel awful about it, but expect the dog sitter to take care of it. I wouldn't expect someone to be running around town picking up packages without a list of what to expect beforehand, and I couldn't tell you when my boiler was about to go out.
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        11-07-2013, 06:15 AM
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    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by DuckDodgers    
    Things happen... but it seems like quite a bit of coincidence for all of these things to be happening at the same time...

    If it's that big of a deal to you, then I would tell them that in the future they should have records of a clean bill of health for the dog, or have not introduced any new animals to the household within x amount of time.

    If you are not willing to deal with the package situation then I would tell them that you can't. Simply say that you are willing to care for the house and animals, but that you are unable to pick up packages from across town because of your school schedule. They should either arrange to have the packages left at the door, or they should pick them up upon return.

    I don't think that the boiler issue is one that they could necessarily prevent. Stuff happens in the house, and sometimes it's unexpected. Sucks that it had to be you dealing with it, but I would tell them IN ADVANCE that you expect payment for the days that you will be missing work due to any such issue. If they have problems with that, then work it out before the issue arises.

    Basically, tell them what you are and are not willing to do and what will require extra compensation. If they're expecting too much then do not put yourself in the situation. If you can work it out, then do so. If I found that my dog were ill during my vacation I would feel awful about it, but expect the dog sitter to take care of it. I wouldn't expect someone to be running around town picking up packages without a list of what to expect beforehand, and I couldn't tell you when my boiler was about to go out.
    I total get that stuff happens. It's impossible to predict things like animals getting sick or the boiler breaking down. My problem stems from this being more or less the rule, not the exception. The dog was sick a month before they left. With proper care it could have been 100% taken care of. The boiler, accidents happen. If I'm taking care of someone's house have a obligation to the house and the animals. But asking me to take off for for regular maintenance could have be completed BEFORE they leave.
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