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        01-23-2008, 09:08 PM
    Green Broke
    bummed...relationship stuff

    I am seriously bummed....I think I feel my internal clock ticking by. My boyfriends Ex just found out she's pregnant (not to mention she's a loser and was able to marry someone) and I've been with my bf for almost 5 years and still no proposal not to mention we have a business, lived together for a bit longer than 4 years, have 5 pets!, and we are seriously the grossest cute couple ever (lovie dovie). And yet, Here I am waiting for a proposal while everyone I knew from high school is getting married (if havent' already), having babies, moving on with their lives, and I'm just stuck here waiting. He says he wants to and we've been talking about getting married for 2 years now, and apparently he is waiting for the RIGHT TIME. That's fine and all, but I've been rightfully waiting for the next step and it's getting quite dissapointing. I know I can't want these things just because everyone else has them, but I have been waiting and waiting and waiting! I just feel like our relationship is so much more than some of these other ones, and yet here I am..........
    I've been a bridesmaid for 2 weddings
    I've been to 5 weddings in the past 2 years
    I am the Godmother to 4 kids
    I have thrown 3 baby showers and been to at least 5.

    Sorry for all the fuss...I'm just so down right now (i know there are more important things to worry about) I just need to vent. Can you believe I have already set the date for our wedding and have most of it planned out because he keeps telling me it's going to happen soon? Lol whatever....................
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        01-23-2008, 09:39 PM
    Green Broke
    No to mention I just found out that 5 of my friends are all pregnant this month
        01-23-2008, 11:39 PM
    It is about time you take the bull by the horns and tell him how you feel about this. He may not realize just how important these things are to you and it probably just hasn't occured to him that you feel the need to get married in the near future. I am sure that when you sit down and rationally discuss it with him, you will have a date set in stone before you know it! Chin up honey. :)
        01-24-2008, 12:04 AM
    Green Broke
    Thanks :)

    The funny thing is is we have talked about it so much. He even tells me what he wants for the wedding, ect. He just keeps making excuses for the proposal to be perfect and the perfect ring ect. I don't need those things..... :(

    Im just feeling bummed lol. Thanks for the support. Ill get over it soon, just like every other time I got down about it.

    I've already asked him to marry me and he says yes, but it's not official until he asks (how silly is that??) lol
    Oh well...........
        01-24-2008, 04:48 PM
    Go buy a bridal magazine and leave it sitting out, and when he asks you what it's for just tell him that you're just getting ready for when he proposes Or take him to a jewelery store and point out your favorite ring, that way he'll know what to get you!
        01-24-2008, 05:13 PM
    Green Broke
    Hehehe thanks Stepher.......done and done lol.

    I talked to him last night for the millionth time about it, and he says that I don't know what he has up his sleeve and I just need to be patient. After talking for a while (we have a very open relationship and can talk about anything), I felt better. I was just upset because I guess I was a tad jealous, but in the end, I already know how he feels, and how I feel, so I'll just have to wait a bit longer. Im pretty sure it's money standing in the way.

    Thanks guys for your advice! I just REALLY needed to vent last night.
        01-24-2008, 09:32 PM
    I think ya should be happy enough to have someone in your life that you get along with!
    I know I have no room to throw stones being that I live in a glass house. (I'm Married) But on the same note, She wants kids, I don't, atleast not right now, and she's okay with that, no pressure.....
    I dated quite a few women before I found my wife. Some of those relationships were quite a few years! I could have gotten Married a few times and did'nt. Thank God!
    Give it time, be patient, but make it clear that that is what you want some day from him.
        01-24-2008, 09:39 PM
    Green Broke
    THANK YOU :)

    Ya I posted this last night just venting and being a complainer. Lol im really not worried about it now, im happy and so is he, and we are comfortable with where we are at. Neither of us believe in divorce so when it happens, it's for good!

    I had an emotional slip up last night

    Blame it on the chocolate
        01-25-2008, 11:13 AM
    Personally I never wanted to get married..so many men so little time was my motto. I'm glad I did 20 years ago but I think I would have been ok to stay single forever. You might check the common-law marriage laws in your state, you may already be married I also hope your busness together is protected in case there is ever a falling out between you. Gotta look out for your best interest There needs to be some sort of contract even if it isnt a marriage one when there is money involved.
        01-25-2008, 04:02 PM
    Green Broke
    Oh yes agreed. Thanks Vida! Hehe So far the business is doing great! Lol and it's only made us stronger. I sincerely appreciate your opinions and advice :) it really helps to blow off steam.

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