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        04-17-2014, 06:57 PM
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    Originally Posted by squirrelfood    
    Unless you are SURE you want children, go for the horse. And if you aren't really POSITIVE you want children, please don't have any. Not everyone needs to be a parent. Not everyone SHOULD be a parent, in SPITE of all the propaganda to do so.
    This. If there's any question about it then I would be inclined to say don't go for the children!

    You can sell or lease out a horse if you end up having children and don't have time or money for the horse. Like others have said, I know quite a few people that own one or more horses while having one or more kids.
         
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        04-17-2014, 07:36 PM
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    Trained
    Buy the horse. It won't need to go to college!
         
        04-17-2014, 08:13 PM
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    My parents did both as well, although they both gradually got out of horses, it was more that their interest waned and other passions took it's place. My dad bought 2 TWH weaning when I was 3 months old and their brother the next year. We had them until their deaths at 23, 27, and 30. Horses don't mind "sitting" in the pasture eating and being horses, they don't mind just being groomed, or just giving pony rides either. There is something nice to be said about watching your (a) child learn to ride on your horse or seeing your horse love on your (a) child.

    I'm not a mother and I don't know if I ever will be, I love kids, and am fairly certain I would be a very good mother, but I also love my animals and am completely content if I never have children. I also have some lovely godchildren (6 at last count) and at least one, probably three or four who would come to me if anything happened to their parents. Although, like I said, I'll probably end up fostering and/or adopting someday so I'll end up having kids no matter what happens in life. If I marry I probably would not marry someone who had a burning crazy desire to have his own biological children, I'm getting older and do not personally agree with fertility treatments and I wouldn't want to take something like that away from someone else.

    Boy that was just a whole ball of ramble, wasn't it? Please excuse, I'm sick and just woke up from nap.
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        04-17-2014, 09:00 PM
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    Buy the horse. It won't need to go to college!

    Good point, but then kids don't need shoes every six weeks!
         
        04-17-2014, 09:12 PM
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    I don't know... The way some of my nieces, nephews, godchildren, and add ons (not sure what to call the ones I'm close with that aren't actually related to me or godchildren) grow... Seems like their parents are buying a new wardrobe every month or so!
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        04-17-2014, 10:10 PM
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    Hmm....not all horses need shoes either. And they certainly don't whine and complain if everything just isn't the latest style either. They don't demand their own smartphone or car..........
         
        04-17-2014, 11:10 PM
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    My kids don't demand such things, but a lot of thought planning and sacrifice goes into kids. When money gets tighter than possible due to circumstances you can't control you cannot sell or lease kids.
    I had horses when I was a kid, as a young adult and sold when I started thinking of kids. Then, at the age my kids could enjoy them and I wouldn't have to worry about diapers and stalls at the same time I got back into horses and drug one kid with me. The others are welcome- but only visit the barn to chat, not live in it like oldest and I can.
    So- get a horse I'd say. Or, lease a horse, with a purchase option.
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        04-18-2014, 02:03 PM
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    I would say that at least half of all people who become parents did not have a huge , overwhelming drive to have them. They had a "when the time is right, maybe" sort of level of passion. I know I did. I had my first at 32, second at 38, and we still didn't think the "time was right", but it happened.
    But, no horse could have brought me the personal development that motherhood has. I know that people say that their horses,dogs, or other pet are their "children", but it is not the same.
    I sometimes do wish I could sell my children, or at least the older one, but when I think of how important my familial relations are to my siblings and parents, I think of how important it is to keep that human chain going.

    True, not everyone should be a parent, and since it does not have the temporary nature of pet/horse ownership, it should not be taken on lightly. But, do not worry that you do not have a drving passion to have a baby. Most of us parents didnt, at the time, but we are glad we did.
    Thank you! This makes me feel more normal! I am sure I would/will make a fine parent (to horse or child) but horses won't be there to take care of me when I am old and feeble. I think that is part of your point with keeping the "human chain" going...
         
        04-18-2014, 02:56 PM
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    Thank you! This makes me feel more normal! I am sure I would/will make a fine parent (to horse or child) but horses won't be there to take care of me when I am old and feeble. I think that is part of your point with keeping the "human chain" going...
    It's very possible your children won't be either. Ever wonder why we need so many nursing homes?
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        04-18-2014, 02:59 PM
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    Originally Posted by squirrelfood    
    It's very possible your children won't be either. Ever wonder why we need so many nursing homes?
    Hmmm...hadn't considered that. I guess I will take that off of the "pro-kids" side of the list. Lol
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