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        04-19-2014, 07:45 PM
      #41
    Green Broke
    It's one of those decisions no one else could make.

    I plan to have both! Hopefully.
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        04-19-2014, 08:01 PM
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    Has anyone besides me struggled with this question?

    I am almost 30 and have never felt the "itch" to have children, even though I sort of feel like I will have them eventually. Since I was a little girl, I have been OBSESSED with horses (in spite of my family not really supporting my riding--having to work to ride since age 9), but have never owned my own horse. At this stage in my life I can finally afford a horse, but I also feel like that might not be terribly responsible if I envision starting a family in the somewhat foreseeable future. Over the past several months I have been given the opportunity to potentially buy my horsey soulmate, which is really making me question whether I want kids at all. The thought of owning my first horse, let alone a horse this special to me, seems so genuinely true to myself. The more I struggle with this question, the less certain I become. DH also really wants kids, and I don't want to let him down. Anyone have any thoughts/experiences to share?
    I'm right there with you. I just bought my first horse after wanting one for nearly 30 years. DH and I tried the kids thing but had a couple of miscarriages and I decided I didn't want to try anymore. My horse is my whole world and I don't know how in the world I would add children to my new life now. I'm not really a kid person but our friends have this little girl who has made me re-think having kids. I don't know how I would do it all. Plus my time is running out - I'll be 38 next month. DH has been dropping little hints here and there but supports whatever decision I make. I don't know what to do but live and enjoy every day. Maybe one day DH will make enough $ where I won't have to work any more and then I might entertain the idea; but by then we'll be 50 something and it will be too late.

    I know I'm no help to you at all, am I? Just wanted to drop you a note to let you know you are not alone
         
        04-19-2014, 08:29 PM
      #43
    Trained
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    Originally Posted by Darrin    
    Yet another consideration is $$, they say today it's ~$250k to raise a child through college. Just wow.
    We had one wonderful child, then horses, and I can tell you that as much as people complain about horses being expensive, children cost a LOT more, and are much HARDER to train
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        04-19-2014, 08:58 PM
      #44
    Weanling
    I have never wanted children, so maybe I'm biased, but I think that there are an awful lot of people in the world already and lots of horses (and other animals) that could use a good home. I think you should go with the horse. If you change your mind, you can sell or lease, and if it's too late biologically, there are lots of kids that could use a good home too.
         
        04-20-2014, 12:28 AM
      #45
    Trained
    As far as expenses go, I, like many, have sacrificed stuff for my child, but not my horses. I can't live w/o them, so they aren't something I could "let go". But, there are so many unnecessary expenses you can reduce or eliminate from your life.
         
        04-20-2014, 01:34 AM
      #46
    Trained
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    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    Good point, but then kids don't need shoes every six weeks!
    More like every 6 months. Less once they get older and start following fashion trends :)

    Horses don't have big weddings.
    Horses won't wreck your car.

    They are just pretty much more awesome in all ways!
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        04-20-2014, 02:01 AM
      #47
    Weanling
    I would say to relax and don't fee like a clock is ticking and that you are somehow obligated to have a child. I would give it a few years and address the question again. You need not worry about it now as one never knows what the future holds for us.
    Buy the horse ( provided you have emergency funds set aside)and continue with your life. It sounds like you have already made the decision, so go with it and don't feel guilty or peer pressure. If the very worst( or best) thing happened five years from now, you would always have the option of leasing or selling your horse if needed.
    Relax and take the life before you.

    My very best to you.
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        04-20-2014, 09:57 AM
      #48
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    Originally Posted by DancingArabian    
    More like every 6 months. Less once they get older and start following fashion trends :)
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    Doubt that very much!

    When I was little and my feet were still growing I would get a new pair of shoes every term at LEAST. My brother once got a pair of shoes and had outgrown them two weeks later!
         
        04-20-2014, 10:39 AM
      #49
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by frlsgirl    
    I'm right there with you. I just bought my first horse after wanting one for nearly 30 years. DH and I tried the kids thing but had a couple of miscarriages and I decided I didn't want to try anymore. My horse is my whole world and I don't know how in the world I would add children to my new life now. I'm not really a kid person but our friends have this little girl who has made me re-think having kids. I don't know how I would do it all. Plus my time is running out - I'll be 38 next month. DH has been dropping little hints here and there but supports whatever decision I make. I don't know what to do but live and enjoy every day. Maybe one day DH will make enough $ where I won't have to work any more and then I might entertain the idea; but by then we'll be 50 something and it will be too late.

    I know I'm no help to you at all, am I? Just wanted to drop you a note to let you know you are not alone
    LOL Okay...I am predicting that you are me 8-9 years from now (minus, hopefully, the miscarriages...sorry about that :( ). Good luck with whatever you end up doing!
         
        04-20-2014, 12:20 PM
      #50
    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by DancingArabian    
    More like every 6 months. Less once they get older and start following

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    I was getting new shoes every 4-6 weeks growing up. It was a race to see if I out grew them or destroyed them for hard use first.
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