Why me? Like..why on earth are there so many horrible car accidents in my life right now?
Some of you know that I recently flippee and totalled my car..Well, my boyfriend just totalled his dad's expensive sports car and has his brother in (I think) ICU at the big hospital in the city.
I have no idea what he was doing or why he was even on the road he was on..Nor do I have any idea how he hit so high on some of the trees, let alone the fact that he hit 5 a good 30 yards apart from each other.
Oh, and he doesn't want to see me.
My old BO lives on the road so I called to ask what she knew and got a car hit a tree and a female was life flighted...Not sure if there was a female too or if whoever she heard from got it wrong or what.
I'm not sure how I'm suppose to work tomorrow..his cousin that's with him said he doesn't even have a scratch on him but his brother is in pretty bad shape..
He feels horrible that he almost killed his own brother..and I can't help but think all of this wouldve been avoided if he wouldve called me to come over like he said he would. :/
Alright..rant over for now I guess..Try an get some sleep so I can atleast stay awake at work, even if I'm not focused. Posted via Mobile Device
Sorry you have another life problem to go through. The siren song of a fast car is hard to compete with. I hope no other female was involved. Early "facts" are often wrong. Maybe you should inquire from Cherie about her job opening.
I will be if I don't get the job I really want here. I'd like to stay around closer for my family (Nana's gettin there in age and mum keeps having health problems), but if there's nothing here for me, then away from the nest I'll fly, lol.
There wasn't a female, my boyfriend, his brother, and their friend Cameron were on their way to the tavern and went the wrong way.
He's actually usually really good with the car and not speeding where he knows he can't speed like such. I know from that hill he shouldn't have been going anymore than 35-40mph from how fast my truck gets rolling down it and he said he coasted, which he's done about a million times with me in the car with him.
His brother is getting picked up now to come on home. No broken bones, just sore muscles, cuts, and some stitches on his head for him.
Boyfriend is close to having a breakdown because of it. The blame will be placed on him, but I know how a car can hit the damn ashes they put down for snow and there's not a thing you can do to control where the car's going because it happened to me.
What really gets me is that he was just talking to his brother last week about how he's never wrecked a car (drinking or not, his brother's on house arrest for DUIs)..He knocked on wood, but that obviously didn't do much for him.
Here's a picture of the car he sent me this morning when they went and cleaned it out.
Why me? Like..why on earth are there so many horrible car accidents in my life right now?
Some of you know that I recently flippee and totalled my car..Well, my boyfriend just totalled his dad's expensive sports car and has his brother in (I think) ICU at the big hospital in the city.
I have no idea what he was doing or why he was even on the road he was on..Nor do I have any idea how he hit so high on some of the trees, let alone the fact that he hit 5 a good 30 yards apart from each other.
Oh, and he doesn't want to see me.
My old BO lives on the road so I called to ask what she knew and got a car hit a tree and a female was life flighted...Not sure if there was a female too or if whoever she heard from got it wrong or what.
I'm not sure how I'm suppose to work tomorrow..his cousin that's with him said he doesn't even have a scratch on him but his brother is in pretty bad shape..
He feels horrible that he almost killed his own brother..and I can't help but think all of this wouldve been avoided if he wouldve called me to come over like he said he would. :/
Alright..rant over for now I guess..Try an get some sleep so I can atleast stay awake at work, even if I'm not focused. Posted via Mobile Device
Irresponsible driving sounds like the answer to your question. He is responsible for what happened and If I were a parent I would not let 3 young men go joy riding in my sports car. That is asking for trouble. It has nothing to do with him not calling like he said he was supposed to do. People need to think about the consequenses of their actions and then stuff like this may be prevented.
It doesn't sound to me as if there was any 'joy riding' or 'irresponsible driving' happening from what OP has said- now OP may not know the whole truth, but we can only go off of what she has given us... The only thing I agree with in your post is that it is not your fault OP, so don't blame his not calling you. Posted via Mobile Device
Yeah, I know he wasn't joy riding. I mean, I think of it as a sports car, but maybe a Pontiac G6 isn't a technical one?
He's actually much more responsible driving than any other 22yr old guy is that I've seen.
I went back to look at the crash site again in the daylight (before it started pouring rain and I had to pull over coz I couldn't even see). He actually only hit one tree..In the dark with just my headlights I didn't realize I was lookint at CAT tire tread and where someone hit the other trees with the bucket (they're taking out hillsides and trees right now). I can see exactly how he lost control around the bend he was talking about, the first time I drove the road I didn't even see the turn and had to do some maneuvering going 30mph, so I believe it was a complete accident where no one was really at fault. On top of it being a horrible turn only wide enough for my truck to barely fit through, the road is littered with the ashes, mud, and lots of gravel from what they're doing off the road.
I know it's not because he didn't call me, but it did cross my mind, lol. I'm not really bothered by the fact now, I was just upset he didn't call when he said he was going to again.
Here's the tree now. They did a horrible clean up job..
Three things cause skidding - over braking, over acceleration and over steering. Regardless of what surface is on the road, if the above are avoided then a car will stay in control.
Young drivers seem to think that it is because of something other than their driving that causes accidents, experience will tell them differently.
Yes, understandable. But, do piles of small gravel, mud, etc not significantly decrease the margin for which over braking/steering/acceleration? Who was to know that there's STILL piles of ashes laying around the road? It causes more risk than there should be, especially when it should've been cleared from the roads after it's purpose was lost (no snow or ice in the past three weeks, no need for it).
So yes, while it was technically our faults, who's to blame for bad road conditions when they should be good? Posted via Mobile Device
So, whoever is in charge of the roads in the USA is meant to go out and clear the roads the moment the snow melts? Did you not see piles of ashes before you hit one and went off the road? If you did not then you were not paying attention to road conditions. If you did then you thought you were infallible and were not driving to the conditions.
You are meant to drive at a speed within your ability.
Many years ago there was a burst water mains outside the place I was living. I called the water board to inform them. The water was running down across the road and as it was cold this was rapidly freezing making the road like an ice rink outside my home which was on a corner.
The water was then going down the side of the road like a fast flowing stream before going down a drain.
Everything was white with a frost.
A motorist then skidded and hit the fence taking out about 100 yards of it including two gate posts and the gate.
He had to have seen the water and, instead of thinking "Wonder where that water is coming from, sub zero temperatures might be ice." He continued driving at a speed that was dangerous for the conditions.
Getting behind the steering wheel of a car is like handling a loaded gun and needs full concentration.
Very few people actually do this (me included) but, as you get older and more experienced driving, so you also become safer. That is, until you get up there in years when you can be a danger to everyone!
When the ashes are the same exact colour as the road I can barely see them walking unless I'm hawk-eyeing right in front of where my foot will hit next, I doubt it's fault of the motorist for not having perfect vision and seeing a pile of them.
The point with the roads needing cleared is that all main roads get sweeped once a week, what about all the roads we drive on getting to our houses or elsewhere? They should be swept the same as the main streets and highways. Posted via Mobile Device
Sorry, you are young and certainly becoming part of the 'blame' era!
Not your fault the road had not been cleared. Not your fault you have a heavy right foot. The fact that you obviously knew the road had not been cleared makes your defending argument pointless.
You are lucky you get the rural roads treated when there is snow. Try living in the UK (which would certainly wake up your awareness whilst driving as the roads are narrow and twisty) Nothing gets treated around here when there is snow let alone cleared!. We are rural and know there is not the money to treat all roads so just drive accordingly.
My eyes tested perfectly fine last year, and I know damn well that they will next week as well.
Not to mention, we aren't even talking about MY accident. THAT was not MY car. MY car is in a completely different thread. I did not hit a tree. I suggest you get your facts straight before you try and put blame on me.
Not to mention, you have not one iota (ioda?) or inkling of how -I- drive. I may have a heavy foot on highway, but sure as it turns dark at night I do NOT speed on back roads. Not to mention, for my accident, I was at least 15 under the speed limit when I wrecked my car. I cannot say how fast my boyfriend was going during THIS accident.
Also, where did I say I knew the road hadn't been cleared? First off, MY accident was on a main road that heads to the hospital. My BOYFRIEND'S accident was indeed on a rural road though. Posted via Mobile Device
Just how do ashes make a road treacherous? I don't understand that.
I do understand that accidents happen. They are unintentional, hence the term "accident". 90+% of the time accidents are the result of poor judgement - the rest of the time its because of an unforeseen event (animals, sudden heavy downpour/snow/fog, accident near you that you can't avoid). So, for the 90+% of the time, I think the point is for us to learn from others mistakes and remember to drive according to conditions which includes weather, road maintenance, road characteristics, vehicle and driver abilities.
So, I do agree that your boyfriend made an error in driving on a corner that isn't just ideal. I hope that your boyfriend, and you, take away some learning from this. I also do agree that we are human and we screw up.
I think that the point Foxhunter is trying to make is not to blame it on others, but to accept that we make mistakes and we have to accept the responsibility for that and learn from it. Preferably, we can learn from others mistakes as well, but we're not always so good at that.
I've gone into the ditch myself a few times in my decades of driving. Every single time was my own blasted fault. Or how about when I tried to drive away from my gooseneck trailer with the tailgate up. I've caught myself lots of times driving where I make a mistake, but the fates decided to forgive me and nothing bad happened. I've had it happen when something completely out of my control happened (animal, freak weather, unbound load on a trailer going the other way...) and from pure luck and luck alone, there was no one else there so I had the road to myself to correct and get out without a scratch. And even those times, I look back and think, "Now did I honestly not have any warning about that at all, or was I just not thinking and paying attention properly?" It's really VERY rare that we shouldn't have known better.
I understand that completely NorthernMama, but I personally see bad road conditions where they are almost always ideal in such weather as an unforeseen event. Both my boyfriend and I have driven the road hundreds of times, and not once has it been like it was when I went to look at the crash site. The road was worse than it's ever been, and it hadn't been like such a week prior since the last that I'd driven it.
I understand that it isn't meant to be blamed on others, and I can't say it wasn't poor judgement on my boyfriend's part since I wasn't there, but in my accident I didn't blame anyone. My accident was just that, an accident. It wasn't my fault because I was speeding and it wasn't anyone's actual fault that there was ashes on the road and my tires hit it and I lost control. But then I thought after my car was evaluated and I was told my tires were completely bald that there was fault to put on someone. I had my car in the shop maybe a month before my accident because I needed a new battery and I tole him I wanted the tires and brakes checked. I was told everything was fine and I went on my way. Who would've thought to check their brakes and tires themselves when a garage just did it for them and they paid? Not me, garages fault they can't tell bald tires from good tires. While I would love to sue him over it and have him lose his business because of the fact, my reciept was somehow lost in the accident. So thus, I've left the blame to no one. Wasn't my fault or anyone else's, it just happened. Will I ever use that garage again? Not a chance in h*ll. My mum made an appt to put my new truck in for me and I told her to cancel it not even a half hour after she made it there. Never will I trust the garage again, and I won't ever use his gas station either just because it makes me feel better.
Though, I found Foxhunter's post rude and basically telling me that I should take full blame for something that wasn't in my control. Not to mention..I wasn't even in the car for this accident.
Also, you know what kind of ashes I'm talking about? The tiny tiny gravel that I've slipped on walking down the road before. I have a feeling that if it's enough for me to fall on my a$$ just walking with the stuff spread out that a pile of it could very well cause a vehicle to lose control. Posted via Mobile Device
I do realise that your accident and your b/friends are different, just using it as an example.
Anyone who gets into a car to drive has a great responsibility, not only to themselves and any passengers but to other road users.
Anyone who has driven for any amount of time will admit to loosing concentration when at the wheel especially on familiar roads, this is when accidents happen.
I have been driving for over 47 years. During this time I have had two major RTAs, the first I ended up taking a cop down over a steep bank on the front of the car.
The second was about 5 yrs ago when I collided with a tanker managing to write off both my truck and the tanker.
The first was certainly not my fault - if anything it was the cops fault and there was no claim against me even though the poor man was seriously injured.
The second was considered 'knock for knock' Narrow lane sharp bend going over an even narrower bridge and due to the road being lower than the fields and the hedges full summer growth, neither of us saw each other until it was to late.
I was travelling at about 20 mph as was the tanker.
I have had many other 'accidents' and all can be put down to me not driving by the rules. Most when I was inexperienced and going to fast or not concentrating.
I would say that 98% of people, when they get their license, think they can drive. I wold say that after driving 500,000 miles then a driver can say they are 'experienced'
Majority of drivers who get their license when they are younger, have a few prangs before they realise that they are not as good a driver as they think.
I now drive very few miles a year, only around 4,000 compared to the UK average of 12,000 miles. I often drive to fast down these narrow lanes where deer can appear immediately in front of you as if by magic. I long ago learned not to swerve for them.
I have learned from experience how to deal with a skid so it is automatic. I have learned how to drive on ice and snow and how to keep 100% concentration when driving in heavy traffic. I have also learned to notice bad drivers and to keep half an eye on them when they are near me.
Does this make me a 'perfect' driver - you bet your bottom dollar it does not! It just makes me a slightly more experienced driver than many.
You haven't heard the old expression "With one boy you have a boy. With two boys you have half a boy. With three boys you have none" Seems to be what was going on here. Iseul, we drive on all kinds of road conditions and the trick is to slow down. With 3 guys in the car, I'd bet dollars to donuts he didn't slow down.
Had not heard this one but it sure is true. To many boys together having fun and their collective intelligence will drop to that of a rock. I've happened to live through that somehow more than once!
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