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        02-09-2014, 07:32 PM
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    Originally Posted by Palomine    
    There have been stories about people stopping to help, and they are kidnapped, raped, or killed too.

    Best thing to do is to call 911 and report car seems to be stranded with someone in there, and ask them to send help.

    You don't know, when you stop, just how things are going to go, and I'd rather be cautious than dead.
    This^^. Anymore, it can be very dangerous to play the good samaritan. Like others, I'm a small woman and often travel alone so if it's a man that's stopped, I keep going and call the police and report a "stranded motorist". If it's a woman by herself I'll stop. I've always had great luck with folks stopping to help when I was in trouble. I'll share some stories later when I have a keyboard and can type faster.
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        02-09-2014, 11:15 PM
      #22
    Weanling
    I don't stop just cause I"m a girl and kind of small. My Dad and I have stopped many times, one time we even came tie downs to a family to keep there hood down so they could drive down the road. Now I had a blow out and got on the side in a turn lane lucky. My dad was on his way, but my tire was across the busy road and I wasn't going to go get it until my dad got there. A gentlemen stopped got my tire and put it in the bed of my truck for me and asked if I had help on the way. He was nicer, but a few minutes later a cop stopped, and when I told them I did have help on the way they sped off, leaving me there. So It's still there but just depends. Most girls don't stop for saftey.
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        02-09-2014, 11:41 PM
      #23
    Weanling
    I always call 911, but never stop. I've heard way too many horror stories from my aunt, who is a Chicago police officer.
         
        02-10-2014, 12:27 AM
      #24
    Weanling
    My battery died at walmart one day. Middle of winter. I asked 10 different people if they could jump me(the people who kept parking next to me) I had my cables attached to my battery, hood up, each person told me no. My boyfriend finally arrived to jump my car. I couldn't believe it. In the little town I used to live, if I broke down I would have 2-3 cars pulling over to help.
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        02-10-2014, 04:02 AM
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    Okay, on a real computer now with a keyboard that it won't take me 20 minutes to type this out.

    I was driving down a basically deserted highway when I had a blowout. It was in the middle of summer, which means 100+ degrees outside. I was digging out my spare and my jack from the trunk. The very first vehicle to go by turned around and came back. There were 4 Mexican men in it and not one of them spoke English but they managed to get across that they wanted me to get back in the car with the air conditioning and they changed my tire while I sat in where it was cool.

    I was living in Amarillo (decent sized city) and came home from work one morning after the weather dumped about 15 inches of snow. Around here, that's a massive amount. I was trying to get into the parking lot of my apartment complex when I hit a drift and got stuck. I sat there for a couple of minutes wondering what I was going to do when 3 people came wading through the drift in front of me to push on my hood until I got out. After I went around the drift and parked, I teamed up with them and about 8 other folks who went around the parking lot helping to push out folks who were stuck.

    Maybe it's just the part of the country where I live, but around here, it seems that you can't pull over to the side of the road to make a phone call without half a dozen people pulling over to see if everything is okay or if you need help.

    So, no, chivalry is NOT dead, people just have to be more cautious because the world is more dangerous than it used to be.
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        02-10-2014, 04:30 AM
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    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by smrobs    
    Maybe it's just the part of the country where I live, but around here, it seems that you can't pull over to the side of the road to make a phone call without half a dozen people pulling over to see if everything is okay or if you need help.
    Around here it very much depends on where you are (stuck).
    If we're in/near town, very few people stop.
    If you're out in the country by our place, most people will stop. When you live somewhere were the nearest gas station is 5 miles, the nearest 24 hour store is 12 miles, cell service can be spotty, and the nearest house can be a walk of a couple miles, folks tend to be very willing to help each other a lot more, and you can be sure than any "local" (typically farmers/ranchers) will stop and help.
         
        02-10-2014, 06:53 AM
      #27
    Weanling
    I slid off the interstate very soon after I got my license (17). It had been snowing and a car in front of me slammed on its brakes, I tried to slow down but my car spun out into the other lane, almost hitting another car, and then back into the other lane and off the edge of a huge hill. Luckily no injuries to me or the car, but it took twenty minutes for somebody to stop! And it was the most horrid weather, getting dark. Did I mention I didn't have a cell phone and my parents weren't home to get a hold of?
         
        02-10-2014, 07:44 AM
      #28
    Green Broke
    Honestly, it's not that I'm afraid to be hurt, kidnapped, etc by the person off in a ditch, but I'm worried about being sued by said person if I help them out of their car. The world is a sue-happy place nowadays, and I don't have the money to be sued for trying to help someone.

    I do stop depending on how bad it is though, even just to roll down the window and ask if they're alright (if I can stop..snowy roads, I'm not going to slam my brakes on for someone around a corner off in the ditch). I know some hand-to-hand, self defense, and I'm handy with a knife (of which I always have anywhere between 1-5 on my depending on where I'm travelling to). I'm female, but I'm not small. Honestly, I'm not the type someone would try to kidnap, I look like I'd put up a fight, which I would.

    So while I'd like to always stop and help, I'll call 991 if they ask, but I'm most likely not going to get out of my truck to ensure I can't be sued for trying to be nice.

    I have also lost all my faith in humanity..I've been screwed over too many times trying to be nice, and it makes me not want to be nice to anyone for fear of being burned. Not to mention, I have absolutely zero knowledge on anything medical, I can't help anyone much more than calling 911 and trying to talk to them to calm them down.


    I will say though, I flipped my car last year (dry road, hit a pile of ash salt penndot left on the side of the road (in the lane, not off the shoulder) with bald tires..I had the first person (I assume, being as I was blocking the whole road, lol) stop to call 911 and I scared the ever living crap out of her when I crawled out cussing a storm and kicking my, now totalled, car. In my frustration of totalling a car for a reason that wasn't my fault and never should've happened (I was slowed down about 15mph under the speed limit), I didn't even thank the lady...I hate to think she regrets stopping to help as it seemed I wasn't even appreciative, but I was. I just didn't have the mental capacity to be upset and able to express my thanks to her at the same time, I was only 17. But, everytime I've stopped, I've always been thanked.
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        02-10-2014, 08:55 AM
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    I am always one to help if I can but, am also wary. I think one has to be in today's world. I don't think it is a new thing that chivalry is dead. I had the tow catch on a trailer snap and the trailer, with two ponies aboard, went across the road on the corner between two oncoming cars, stopped with the front up a bank. The ramp was flat on the floor when I let it down, ponies rolled out totally unharmed.
    About thirty plus cars must have gone past. Then along came a group of Hells Angels, long, non to clean hair, all rather sinister looking but they manhandled the trailer onto the road, tied it to the broken hitch, helped me turn around and followed us back to the stables.
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        02-10-2014, 10:49 AM
      #30
    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by Iseul    
    Honestly, it's not that I'm afraid to be hurt, kidnapped, etc by the person off in a ditch, but I'm worried about being sued by said person if I help them out of their car. The world is a sue-happy place nowadays, and I don't have the money to be sued for trying to help someone.

    I do stop depending on how bad it is though, even just to roll down the window and ask if they're alright (if I can stop..snowy roads, I'm not going to slam my brakes on for someone around a corner off in the ditch). I know some hand-to-hand, self defense, and I'm handy with a knife (of which I always have anywhere between 1-5 on my depending on where I'm travelling to). I'm female, but I'm not small. Honestly, I'm not the type someone would try to kidnap, I look like I'd put up a fight, which I would.

    So while I'd like to always stop and help, I'll call 991 if they ask, but I'm most likely not going to get out of my truck to ensure I can't be sued for trying to be nice.

    I have also lost all my faith in humanity..I've been screwed over too many times trying to be nice, and it makes me not want to be nice to anyone for fear of being burned. Not to mention, I have absolutely zero knowledge on anything medical, I can't help anyone much more than calling 911 and trying to talk to them to calm them down.


    I will say though, I flipped my car last year (dry road, hit a pile of ash salt penndot left on the side of the road (in the lane, not off the shoulder) with bald tires..I had the first person (I assume, being as I was blocking the whole road, lol) stop to call 911 and I scared the ever living crap out of her when I crawled out cussing a storm and kicking my, now totalled, car. In my frustration of totalling a car for a reason that wasn't my fault and never should've happened (I was slowed down about 15mph under the speed limit), I didn't even thank the lady...I hate to think she regrets stopping to help as it seemed I wasn't even appreciative, but I was. I just didn't have the mental capacity to be upset and able to express my thanks to her at the same time, I was only 17. But, everytime I've stopped, I've always been thanked.
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    Bald tires aren't your fault? Interesting...
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