I'm moving cities to live with my partner in December - we've been together 20 months but I've known him for over 6 years. He has a young daughter (2.5 years) and is her sole carer.
He will be returning to work early next year (he's been working on and off, but has had a few bad injuries that kept him out of work for a while). That's fine with me, because I'll be working from home and I'd like to see him be able to get back into the workforce - as much as he loves being with his daughter he does need some structure to his day. And I'm a terrible workaholic so having something other than work to focus on will be good for me.
Neither of us are particularly romantic - although we love each other very much there is no way we'd be having candlelit dinners together... Sometimes he tries too hard and forgets that I'm a bit...uh...masculine in my activity tastes (I like watching sport and good car shows, fixing stuff, fiddling around in the workshop and similar things). But we both love horses, fishing and camping - and we'd like to travel overseas one day if we ever have the money. So we do have a lot in common as far as interests go. And while there are a few differences we also have similar taste in houses, cars, food, beer and a lot of other stuff - which is all great!
And I'm pretty messy, he's pretty neat (but not obsessively so) - so I'll need to pull my act together! But I've lived with people before (guys and girls), just not people that I was in a relationship with.
Anyway, enough of the overlong infodump. Hope you had the patience to read...
Even though I think we're a good match we both know it won't be easy and that we're going to have to work at it, and have spoken about this a lot. So, any tips for cohabiting? Anything we should do to make sure we keep communication good, reduce stress (things'll be a bit financially tight for a while), make the best of our similarities and differences, and just generally stay together and keep the ship afloat?
Fair few wise ones on this forum and I've found a lot of other forums and articles on other sites have been useless for me as they tend to be very "romantic" and just not at all like either of us (and they really don't seem like the stuff most guys would actually appreciate in truth).
(Gents, feel free to chip in along with the ladies - I'd really value your input.)