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post #1 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 12:19 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy cyber bullying/harrassment (on other forums)

has anyone else experienced any cyber bullying on forums they go on? Im getting bullied awful and don't know what to do about it? Any advice? Ps. Its the moderators aswell as other users that are doing the bullying so can't turn to them, have also contacted the administrator but they have done nothing so what else can I do? ( its not this forum by the way) my mum has been looking into taking it higher and getting the forum closed is that possible?
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post #2 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 12:41 AM
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Honestly... I'd just leave that forum. There isn't very much you can do, and as much as people try to spread awareness and get cyber bullies to stop, it's a very personal battle. The best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation and don't go back. Like in real life, cyber bullies are just looking for a reaction- by fighting back you're giving them what they want and they'll continue. If you ignore it they'll get bored or better yet, if you get yourself out of the situation they can't bully you anymore.

Now, if they follow you off of the forum and continue to bully you over other forums / messengers / websites, etc. then that's more like "cyber stalking / harassment" and then YES you should definitely go to the authorities. Also if it's people you know in real life that have taken it to the internet.
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post #3 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 01:03 AM Thread Starter
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maybe your right its just really upsetting as there some really nice genuine good people on there its just the few ruining it for me, something to do with mistaken identity, but instead helping me show they got the wrong person altogether they just laying into me saying im this other person and been down right nasty I don't know what this other user has done but I don't deserve to get it in the neck just because I use the works computer too, I work with 80 plus staff it could be anyone of the people who work here, but just because use same public computer which is at our work place whenever we are on shift, does not give them the right to accuse me and then call me a liar when I defend myself and surely moderators should lead by example on the behaviour front not make things worse
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post #4 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 01:24 AM
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Just report them and don't reply
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post #5 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 01:31 AM Thread Starter
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who do I report them to?
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post #6 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 01:43 AM
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On this forum, reporting someone is easy. You click the ! Under that persons avatar. That brings you up a screen to type in a quick explanation of what is going on. Mike, the administrator here is very nice and super understanding. If you are having problems on this board, please let Mike know.

We all are passionate people who love horses. While some on this board are a bit upfront and brash, they only do it because they want you to have good information.

I hope this helps!
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post #7 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 01:57 AM
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I think its bit of a no-brainer. Leave the forum. People don't have to be nice to you, either in person or online. Bullying is more a term used for young people who cannot escape their circumstances. On a forum it is easy, just click the little x in the corner and leave.

Delete contacts from email or msn. If they become persistent and come after you then its a real problem. Send them all the same email saying (in proffessional language) that what they are doing is harassment and you would like them to stop immediately. If they do not then do consider further action against the individuals.

Moderators are just people - they are not "the forum" and just because you have a bad time on a forum it shouldn't be closed. Not to mention it will be near impossible to close a forum down as the internet is not "owned" by any one country or jurisdiction. Not to mention most forums have disclaimers about how they are not responsible for the conduct of their members (which they're not). Additionally it would be difficult to explain why you didn't just leave when it was making you upset.

Besides that, leave the forum, do not visit it, do not reply to its posts, do not reply to emails.
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post #8 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 04:36 AM Thread Starter
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I understand all that saskia didn't want it closing down just the people who are constantly bullying reprimanded
It's not on this site no this site is lovely not had any trouble on here
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post #9 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 07:23 AM
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Honestly, I would learn to deal with it and not take things so personally. There's always going to be jerks out there, and most of the time you have no recourse to have them punished or reprimanded. I'm guessing you're younger, but when you get older you just learn to accept the idiots out there and realize that they are "sad" inside and if you ignore them, along with everyone else, they'll quietly disappear. It's just a part of life. :(

Another option is to just block them, most forum software have that option. :)
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post #10 of 16 Old 12-23-2010, 07:26 AM
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Honestly, I would learn to deal with it and not take things so personally. There's always going to be jerks out there, and most of the time you have no recourse to have them punished or reprimanded. I'm guessing you're younger, but when you get older you just learn to accept the idiots out there and realize that they are "sad" inside and if you ignore them, along with everyone else, they'll quietly disappear. It's just a part of life. :(

Another option is to just block them, most forum software have that option. :)
I have to agree with this if you find the other members of that forum people you want to communicate with.
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