02-23-2013, 08:01 AM
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How things change but remain the same.
Of course words can hurt but, as a child when I complained to my mother that so and so had called me ames I was told 'sticks and stones' and to ignore them and not to let them see that their words had hurt and they would stop.
I learned to do this, although I hasten to add, I didn't really have anything to be teased about. If it didn't work then I was just as likely to thump the bully!
It was interesting that a port wine blemish as mentioned in the video, was a cause to call the girl ugly. I had a girl work with me who had one of the worse facial blemishes I have ever seen. Half her face was red from her eyebrow to her chin. I was shocked when I first met her and, instantly thought there would be problems because she would have been bullied.
Brother, was I wrong! A more outgoing, open and wonderful character would be hard to find. I asked her if she had ever been teased and she said that once in High School a boy was going on about it so she turned and slapped him across the face hard (she is tiny) When the teacher told her off she just retorted "Well, now he knows what it is like to have a red face!"
She was never teased again.
Lazer treatment had been tried but was going to scar. Later a new treatment came out which she went to. It was hitting the skin with a lazer beam causing severe bruising. After the first treatment her face was no longer red but black! It must have been so painful but she turned up for work non the less. As the bruising faded it was possible to see that the stain was going too. Many treatments later her cheek, most of her nose, eyelid and chin were clear but her lower nose and upper lip were to deeply blemished to do anything about it. As for the stains on her body she never had them treated as she couldn't be bothered.
Much bullying is teasing got out of hand. A line has to be drawn. Having been born with a thick skin it never bothered me. It did my sister.
I was brought up to know that anyone different whether it was just character or a deformity, mental or physical, 'there but for the grace of God goes you or one of yours.' being mean or nasty and that included leaving that person outside of our games, would evoke the wrath of our mothers and that was something you did not want to happen because regardless of who you were, they were entitled to correct you either verbally or with a cuff across the backside!
I love to come across a bully - I am not ashamed to admit that there is not a bigger bully than me! I will take them on head on and because I never let them get to me, I will get the better of them and give them a dose of their own medicine. It really doesn't take a lot to make a bully back down and giving them a dose of their own medicine makes them think twice!