Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Higgins, TX. YeeHaw!!
I grew up in a household that was willing to spank when necessary. My Dad spanked me once for lying and once for not feeding my dog. My Mom slapped me in the face once for talking back. My Grandma even made me get my own switch from the tree in her front yard once, then proceeded to beat me with it. I hated it then but I appreciate it now. I look at some of the people that I grew up with that never had discipline of any kind and it makes me glad that I have the family I do.
That being said, I don't think that spanking/not spanking is the only issue. It is just bad parenting in general that is creating the world we live in today. Parents who depend on tv and video games to babysit their kids. And small children watching shows like South Park and playing games like Zombie Massacre, Grand Theft Auto (where you get points for shooting cops), or whatever (I don't know much about video games but you guys get the idea). I'm not saying that the tv/v-games themselves are responsible but you combine a child growing up on things like that and a parent who is either not present or doesn't care enough to teach them that the things they see on tv are wrong, you end up with a teenager or adult that doesn't see anything wrong with theft. They look down the barrel of a gun and they just see a picture like the tv screen, they don't see a human. I worked in a prison for almost 6 years and I can tell you that the younger crop of criminals coming in are downright scary. They are willing to kill a person just for looking at them wrong and they feel absolutely no remorse for stealing or killing. Many of those that we got in where I worked came from the inner city of Houston, Austin, Dallas/Fort Worth, etc. They were surrounded by violence from every angle and their parents either didn't care enough to actually spend quality time with them or were working 4 jobs just to put food on the table. They were almost always alone and the family structure of a gang is very tempting. They offer money, security, and friendship and all you have to do is go rob this store or kill this rival. It is a vicious circle because society no longer allows anyone to actually punish a child for purposefully doing wrong. Even if the parents are not in the picture, the other adults simply turn their heads and ignore it instead of trying to make a difference. When I was growing up, the entire town had a standing order that if anyone saw me misbehaving, whoever was closest had the right to snatch me up and whip me.
I bet if the first time a man touched a child inappropriately, if the kid's whole family showed up at his house and beat the holy living **** out of him, he would think twice about looking at a kid again. But no, lets send them to prison where they get whatever they want and the guards have to be nice to them, they get free medical care and free education so that they can be smarter about doing it again after they are released from their 5 year sentence. And that's the thing, they will do it again. The state of Texas recitivism rate is more than 85% (that means that 85% of the people that get out of prison will be back inside within a year).
Most of us are part of a society that has become all too content with zero accountability: the offenders are not held accountable for their actions, the parents aren't held accountable for their children, the neighborhoods aren't held accountable for their own residents, and the government isn't held accountable for anything.
Wow, sorry for the big ol' long rant.
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