Originally Posted by mountainhorse44
What if you spank your children constantly and it doesnt work?
Then, as a responsible parent, you STOP and find the discipline alternative that works for that particular child.
It is a neverending struggle to communicate discipline effectively because the means must change as the child grows and life in the household changes. Nothing ever stays the same.
I remember when I was a kid, my mom had three wooden spoons: the biggest was for my brother, the middle-size one was for my sister and the smallest was for me! <giggle> It was no longer an effective threat by the time I came around though because my parents found out that they could throw panic into my brother just by going to the "spoon drawer"!!
After that, my mom used her dreaded wooden-soled clogs. They were always on her feet in the house, so they were always convenient! All three of us are productive members of society and very confident people.
Spanking alone, or using on a leash (see other thread) doesn't define or create dignity or confidence. It the day-to-day support and love that really makes the difference. I know lots of kids whose parents refuse to spank, but the kids are a mess because those same parents don't provide discipline and support in their kids' lives.