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    09-23-2012, 02:47 AM
  #1
Weanling
Exclamation Did I over react?

We've all been in relationships...I seemingly more than most people seem to cross paths with guys that turn out to be jerks. So here's the situation:
My fiance and I were having a long time acquaintance of his over and they started pounding the beers back and Dan began getting snotty with me....making me feel less than what I supposedly mean to him. He became extremely hurtful and sarcastic, making me feel insignificant and stupid. When I asked him about it, instead of apologizing, he acted as if I imagined it and pretended to not know what I was talking about. So I left the room to go to the bedroom, locking the door behind me. I guess, as one ex boyfriend told me, Bros really do come before "Hos"...which totally hurts right now. My question is did I over react or did I react appropriately?
     
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    09-23-2012, 02:52 AM
  #2
Yearling
Did you talk to him about this the next day when he was sober? Or did you confront him that night while intoxicated?
     
    09-23-2012, 02:54 AM
  #3
Weanling
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Originally Posted by PurpleMonkeyWrench    
Did you talk to him about this the next day when he was sober? Or did you confront him that night while intoxicated?
It just happened a couple of hours ago and he's still partying with his Bro
     
    09-23-2012, 02:55 AM
  #4
Yearling
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Originally Posted by AbsitVita    
It just happened a couple of hours ago and he's still partying with his Bro
Talk to him about it when he is sober and see what he says. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him to be more careful of how he treats you when he is drinking or with his friends.
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    09-23-2012, 04:07 AM
  #5
Yearling
I don't care if he was drinking or not or if his buddy was around. You should be #1 always and never treated that way especially by your spouse.


You know already what you should do.
He's lucky I wasn't there..LOL
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    09-23-2012, 04:18 AM
  #6
Trained
Well, I think you should be thankful that this happened. Now you know. If it were me, I would not walk...I would run in the opposite direction.
     
    09-23-2012, 04:58 AM
  #7
Foal
I know you are still heated about it now but the best advice I can give you is take a unisom go to bed and talk to him about it in the morning when he is sober and the emotions have calmed.
     
    09-23-2012, 10:13 AM
  #8
Trained
OP no one can make you feel anything. Only you have control over your emotions. The burden of who is jealous or upset is yours.
His behaviour is unacceptable and needs to be addressed it also reeks of emotional abuse.
Your pattern of picking men with baggae may be repeating itself.
If two people desire change in a relationship it takes two people to make that change happen.
How much alcohol were you drinking? This might have impaired your judgement and added to the problem. Alcohol is a mind altering chemical. If both of you were drinking signals may have been mixed. I do not know I wasn't there..
The questions you need to ask yourself is will this occur again and if so can you handle it. What can you do to prevent an occurence. Shalom
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    09-23-2012, 10:20 AM
  #9
Yearling
Personally, if anyone said "Bro's before Hoe's" to me, he would be gone. No question, no excuse, just done. You are not a Ho, you are someone he chose to be in a committed relationship with. If he is your fiancÚ, then he has chosen to spend the rest of his life with you. NOTHING other then God should come before you, in his mind.

If he is disrespecting you now, what will it be like after you are actually married? This might be a good warning to you and something you really need to determine if you can live with.
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    09-23-2012, 10:24 AM
  #10
Weanling
Dbarabians, I RARELY drink and last night I was sticking to Mt Dew, both my biological donors were alcoholics and I don't want to venture down that path after my childhood from hell...
     

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