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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South East Texas
The difference between being Constructive and Rude
Alright, well this is pretty much just a rant, so pay me no mind if you wish. Contradict me if you must, but you won't change my mind.
Lately I've been the victim of and have been observing victims of poor critisism, and I just wanted to remind everyone that there is a VERY large difference between giving constructive critisism in a friendly and helpful manner, and rudely pointing out all of the flaws in someone's riding, the way they handle things, or their animals without giving any positive feedback.
This is supposed to be an open, friendly forum that helps people who have little knowledge of horses to learn from those who do. Not a place where horse newbies are so scared to mention something that they end up trying to deal with it themselves- thus making a larger problem.
I understand that often a person's point of view or opinion is wrong, but that does not mean that anyone should under any circumstance be unkind or harsh when correcting them. Personally, I don't believe that anyone's opinion should be corrected, unless it proves to be dangerous. I like black horses, you like chestnut. It's not something to argue about.
Bashing someone over the head or shoving your idea of what's right in their faces isn't going to win them over. Explanation and friendliness will.
Now if someone's self, horse, or item is in the CRITIQUE section, by all means, give them your two cents. Still though, try to be kind when pointing out flaws. No one likes to hear that everything they're doing is wrong.
Try to make it a point to add one positive comment to every one or two negative. It helps the OP swallow the 'medicine' much better, in my opinion.
Please, guys. Just think before you speak. I know that a lot of times in our ambition we forget about the feelings of the other people we're conversing with, but try to remember that this forum was created to be helpful, not to run people off.
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