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post #1 of 59 Old 08-25-2012, 01:21 PM Thread Starter
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Do kids need entertainment every waking moment?

So the past two times we have been out for dinner, there has been a table close by with children watching either a DVD on a portable player or kids playing devises like PSPs.

If the parents gave the children headphones, I think I'd feel much better about it. But the constant dink dink type noises that come from games makes me twitch.

Is it really necessary that children are entertained in this way even during dinner times? Admittedly we are only in a diner, and not some terribly fancy restaurant - but we have a larger family with the foster kids, and that's about as fancy as we get unless it's a special occasion.

'My' kids tell me all the time that I am excessive with my expectations of manners and I am in comparison to their backgrounds. When we eat out, they are expected to have proper table manners, to keep their voices at a controlled volume, not wear caps, please & thank yous etc. Heck even at home, when they play games, they have the volume muted.

Anyone else noticing that children seem to be entertained every waking hour of their lives? What are your thoughts?
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post #2 of 59 Old 08-25-2012, 01:33 PM
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I was dating a man for 3 years who has custody of his then seven year old daughter. When she was home, she ruled him and was constantly entertained by him until the time she went to bed. Very spoiled and very disrespectful to him. It broke us up. Not my style at all. My grown daughter has her MBA and we are very close. She was raised the old fashioned way, especially at the dinner table. To this day, she thanks me for the great manners I instilled in her. I might add she ending up marrying a very well mannered surgeon.
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The old fashioned courtesy for others has long gone out the window, for children and adults alike.

It seems it is easier to give in to the child's wishes than be a good parent.

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breeders have been substituting electronics for parenting more and more. Then wonder why they are hyper, then give them drugs, etc etc etc.
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I came from pretty extreme parents, if I did not eat my meal it was provided again and again until I ate it - breakfast lunch dinner.

I was expected to be silent at the dinner table, or talking with my parents. Heck the TV was turned off for meal times.


The dink dinking type noises from the game was making my skin crawl on Fri night. And yet I felt that if I said something to the parents, I would be the one with the problem as it has become fairly normal.
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I think electronics have become an easy-out for a lot of parents. Don't want to instill manners and teach patience? Hand them your iPad when they start whining. They're complaining about an eight-hour car ride to visit relatives? Buy them a DS so they shut up. I think my family's a little guilty of this. With four young kids (twin 4 y/os, 5 y/o, and 12 y/o drama queen), it's a lot easier to turn on the TV or let them play on your iPhone just so you can get things done around the house. However, when we go out to dinner there are no electronics. They sit at the table and talk to us, coloring with crayons if the restaurant provides them.
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Glad to hear I'm not the only one with this pet peeve. I'm not old by any means, (21) and I hate that kids these days stare at digital screens most of the day. What ever happened to reading and coloring books?!

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What ever happened to reading and coloring books?!
Or just sitting being bored? Laugh, I spent much of my childhood doing that.
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Or just sitting being bored? Laugh, I spent much of my childhood doing that.
Bored? There was no such thing as the word "bored" in my house. If you said the phrase "I'm bored" or even looked bored in my house my parents gave us something to do. Usually more chores.

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If the parents gave the children headphones, I think I'd feel much better about it. But the constant dink dink type noises that come from games makes me twitch.
Alex, this was just a dinner. Now imagine when you sit on a plane (trying to sleep) having this dink dink for 5 hours straight right behind your seat. I had this "fun" on my trip just recently...
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