Originally Posted by Saddlebag
Here's the thing. My father was a fully ordained, highly educated United Church minister. There is no way ever would he have made a public spectacle of his beliefs. As kids, he told us that if we wanted to pray, or say grace, it would be fine to do it in the car before we went in. In the Bible, Jesus says to closet your beliefs - to keep it to yourself. They forget about that passage. Praying over food had it's origins in the Jewish faith many centuries ago. The food was sold in open air markets and a Rabbi would inspect then bless the meat which meant it was safe to eat. Somehow it's at every meal and few are Jewish. As for dining with these folks again, no I won't be. I don't like all the attention their praying attracts, the dirty looks from both staff and patrons. And yes, when talking quietly to the waitress, I was reminded to hush, that they were praying.
I'd like to see the Biblical reference where Jesus says to 'closet your beliefs'? That's a new one on me.
As for the OP it doesn't seem your neighbors were being arrogant any more than I would think you were being arrogant 'not' participating in the prayer.
As a server, I would proceed in my job according to my own beliefs. (recognizing you may not receive a tip if the patrons think you are rude) I think it is the human condition that makes us feel we should be respectful of someone's beliefs, nothing wrong with being respectful ever. I am a christian and I try to be respectful of others spiritual persuasion or the lack thereof but I don't dislike or hate anyone because they don't believe as I do.