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    07-04-2012, 07:17 AM
ever had to turn down the perfect job?

Truely just needing to vent as im sooo emotional it sucks. :(

So, a few days ago I decided to apply for a few new jobs and get back into the horse industry, as I am now a electrician and its just really not me.

I applied for a working pupil position where I could take my own horse and we would both train up and compete in show jumping, dressage, ODE etc.
This job was approx 3 hours away from where I live but me and my partner decided we would go if I got it!
Anyways a few days later I talk to the owner and I got along great with her and she asked me to look at her website and think about the job!
So heres me completely over the moon finally getting to follow my dreams!!
And just today I had to call her back and refuse because now my partner wont move..

Just completely bummed out at the moment.
Good bye dreams !

On the bright side I still have my horse :)
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    07-04-2012, 12:57 PM
Aww, sorry to hear it- sounds like an amazing opportunity. Would there have been any way to figure out a compromise with your partner? On one hand jobs come and go, but good relationships are hard to come by; it might be better in the long run to pass this job by for the time being if it means keeping someone very important to you. On the other hand, if your partner knows how much this job means to you, they should be willing to help figure something out. Don't give up hope- maybe if you guys sit down and discuss all possibilities you could still take the job. Good luck :)
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    07-04-2012, 01:55 PM
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I say talk about it, explain how much you want this job. Personally I would take the job and leave the partner... But that's just me.
    07-04-2012, 08:57 PM
Great advice steph! :)
Unfortunately there is just no talking with my partner, ill be better off talking to a brick wall lol.. It just furiates me how he can change his mind just like that and not think of the consequences..

Lol ray! Tempting, but there is no way I could do that. :(

The worst part is that there is no such places around where I live that could offer me the same opportunity.

I think im just going to keep up my studies and maybe oneday start my own business. New dream. :)
    07-04-2012, 11:22 PM
I'd be telling my partner to go jump if that was the case.
I was thinking about taking a position at a warmblood stud and competition stables, the money on offer was surprisingly good for work with horses and there were some good oportunities on offer.
My partner and I decided that if I went for the job, we would give it two months, if I was happy and wanted to stay there, than he would consider moving for me. The position was interstate, about 9-10 hours from home.

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
Often teenages seem to be under the impression that their boyfriend of 3 months is going to be 'the one' and they would do anything and everything for them.
As a person gets older, you start to realise the value in achieving your own dreams and goals. There are plenty more fish in the sea, if he won't move a few hours for you, then maybe he's not 'the one'.
    07-04-2012, 11:43 PM
Im 21 in august.. We have been together for a couple of years now and he us a great partner its just this one thing.
It would mean we would be moving from our country lifestyle where we were born and bred to the city, but that's where all the business is!
See he has already moved once for me he left all his family and friends which were another 2 hours west so I can kinda see his point there.

But there was no reason these things couldnt be discussed instead of giving me false hope

But I totally get what you mean with the 3 month relationships haha. I can assure you that's not me or my bags would be packed. :)

I think we shall refer to my boyfriend now as the "handbrake"
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    07-05-2012, 12:04 AM
Phew, I was a bit worried that this would be one of those 'We've been together for a whole month and we are like so totally in love and we're going to run away together, get married, have lots of babies and live together for eva <3 <3 <3 I Would do ANYTHING for him..." *Kayty pictures 15 year old girl giving up on all dreams to be the good little housewife to her 'like totally UH MAZ ING" boyfriend of a month :P

I was with my man for 3 years at the time - I found that introducing the idea slowly, sitting down with him giving him a list of benefits to the move, confirming that it won't be forever - if you're not enjoying it you'll come back. Try the tactic my partner and I used - go on your own for a couple of months, if you find it too hard then go home, if you love it and are not feeling hugely homesick and boyfriend sick, then tell him that you are loving it and would love for him to come and join you.
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    07-05-2012, 12:15 AM
Haha too funny!

That is seriously a great idea! We are both renting together and I doubt he could afford rent on his own so there is an obstacle, but if its ment to be we can get around it. Just have to keep at it I spose.

Congrats on your new job too btw. I hope you enjoy it
    07-05-2012, 12:25 AM
I didn't end up taking that job ;)
Just a few things came up about the stud and I decided that I didn't really want to be associated with them.
So now I'm working a 9-5 office job *yawn* and riding on the side. However I'm in the process of applying for the police. I can't cope with a full time office job, my back is getting ruined from sitting down all day, I'm so stiff, I'm tired, my motivation has gone... I don't know how people can do this for their whole life. Same thing, every. Single. Day..... my idea of hell!!!
    07-05-2012, 12:53 AM
Omg im working an office job aswell atm. Its so draaaining mentally and its making me put on some chub lol. Because im finished my electrical trade im now working full time inside designing powerlines, ughh just kill me now! Lol

Good luck going with the coppas, bloke from work left recently to join up and he's loving it.
Actually I got a few mates that have joined, seems like a great career. :)
I always wonder where they get there horses from fir the mounted police. Such sound animals!

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