ever had to turn down the perfect job?

You can never be happy in a relationship if you arnt happy in your own life. This infelxibility on your partners part will manifest itself over and over and over. Till you either resign yourself to be miserable or you leave.
I wouldnt waste breath on arguing or trying to talk him into it. If you are miserable now and the new job will make you happy. Simply tell him your leaving and would like him to come but that's ok if he doesnt. Then go. Find a new boyfriend.

I REALLY Know how you feel. I came to the US and told my wife not to buy a house in 08. Though she disagreed and went with her parents advice because they pretty much want their house back. (She was living with her parents just for a short time as a lease on a house was up) I explained the Market is in a nose dive and we can find a better place when I get a job and settled down. Also I need to know I going to be happy with the state too.

Came to the US got a house and now we owe more than it's worth and HATE living in the state of Maine! I was a truck driver in UK and I can get a good job and better lifestyle than here in Maine. She doesn't want to move to the UK or other state... I see some horse jobs and I can't even apply for it :( Sadly I can't carry over my HGV license over so I have to take the whole thing again really.

Anyhow I am only here for my Son Chris who 20 months old! So Now I trying to make it work in every way possible! I am going to try freelance instructor and work on my Website/organisation in the Equine field! *sigh* Though Maine sucks on the industry part.

Anyhow do you keep an eye on Yard and groom site for work as well?

I agree but sadly for me this more complicated as I am a legal Alien in the US! *sigh* Never get into a 3000 mile relationship again that's for sure.

I mean if your not married then do what you want! Too late for me lmfao *holds his chain and ball*

Aw im sorry it didnt work out :( keep trying though, im sure you will find another student position closer to home soon! I was once offered a job at a trekking centre near my home but couldnt get there because of school :(

^^, that really sucks, im sorry to hear all that your going through! But congrats on your little boy im sure he will show you its all worth it in the end. :)
I hope things start looking up for you soon!

^, because I already turned down the position that's what im going to have to do, just keep looking hopefully something will pop up but in the meantime keep up my studies which will open up some more opportunities :)
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Jobs have a tendency to suck no matter what they are. Great relationships are harder to come by. One thing that I would want to think about is -- why did he refuse to go? Is he just trying to be controlling? Does he have a great job or great place to live where you are? If he has already moved once to something that didn't work out, is he just gun-shy? A job is not worth a relationship; however, if the person in the relationship always has to have their own way, ditch him.....

So we both agreed to stay where we are, yes I got the brick wall to talk!
If we stay where we are we can continue to seek out our house, stay on very good wages and afford to keep my own horses where as if we moved we would never be able to buy a house as the city is soooo expensive my wage will not be as good and blah blah.

Things go alot better when there is good communication (something we gotta work on)