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        08-18-2013, 06:26 PM
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    Showing
    Exes...urgh

    Okay I need a slap of something to my face.

    I am obsessing over the fact I put so much effort and love and money into someone that just didn't even try with me.

    I know everyone has their baggage or their problems, but with him he wouldn't talk to me about them, or talk with me about his family. I've known him for over 3 years, so that should have been a sign to me that it wasn't going to work.

    He was jealous of my relationship with Sky, angry with me for not doing things his way.. always thought I was snappy or mad at him if I wasn't bursting from the seams happy.

    It wasn't a healthy relationship but I'm finding that getting over it is hard. For the record, I ended it but I guess hoped that we could still be friends. He just deleted me from FB without so much as a word, so I guess not.

    Please anyone tell me I'm an idiot and need to think about something else. Please help me get through these awful feelings! It'd help if I had Sky but I can't help feeling so angry and hurt.
         
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        08-18-2013, 06:36 PM
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    Trained
    Your not an idiot. And it takes time...weeks, months, years to get over someone.

    You invested a lot into the relationship and got little in return. But you were still attached to him.

    I went through the same thing. I did everything for my ex, to get emotionally abused, cheated on and thrown to the dogs when he was done with me. He was not at all rational about how our breakup when. Yet I was still a wreck. I wanted it to work. I hung around for 8 months after we broke up. Was used by him once every 5 weeks. And I still didn't get it.

    Finally I woke up one day and was just over it. I never tried calling him again. Stopped thinking about him. Got my life back on track. Fixed myself and got happy with who I was. And over a year and a half later, closer to 2 years, I found a new guy...well, he found me, but it worked out.

    He does his best to make me happy. (Including dealing with hay...) and it has worked out for me in the end.

    But it did take over a year for me to find my footing.

    He was a loser. Your ex is a loser and not worth your time. Believe I've been there.

    Take your time, focus on yourself, and a hobby and stay busy.
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        08-18-2013, 07:45 PM
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    Thanks CLaPorte (not sure if you want me to use your name lol) for your advice. It rally has helped put things into perspective for me

    I very much appreciate it
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        08-18-2013, 08:39 PM
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    Yearling
    boy frend problems.

    Hiya sky I think if he started to dislike your horse he had to go and I know you had a feeling in your hart that something was wroung.
    With relation ships that don't pan out some times its for the best and thankfull you did not progress any further with him.
    I think you made the right choice in puting your horse first and as for deleating you from face book I would not give face book the time of day.
    And ill be honest judgeing by how quick he deleated you there was no true feelings of love there.
    Sky the best love you have is your horse for get about him I know its hard but this guy seems to be a time waster and I would for get about him as quick as posible.
    Injoy your horse and get back liveing your life as you know how with your horse.
         
        08-18-2013, 08:42 PM
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    Yearling
    sky.

    And rember you are not an idiot ok and don't brand your self as one ok.
    Your not.
    You are you and we all make mistakes along the way so don't beat your self up.
    Michael.
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        08-18-2013, 08:47 PM
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    Showing
    Thank you so much Michael :) That made me feel a whole lot better!

    I'm going to be a lot smarter with who I start to get serious with.
         
        08-18-2013, 08:56 PM
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    Green Broke
    We get to a certain age when the epiphany occurs - "What was I thinking? I could've had a V-8!" Then in our new found realization, we find there is no time, tolerance or patience for anything less in a relationship than the wholesome, chivalrous quality in which we have earned in our solid productive lives! Today's upsets are tomorrow's chip paper... :)
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        08-18-2013, 08:59 PM
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    Trained
    Absolutely. You learn from your mistakes. And it makes us a better person. And you will have a better relationship with whoever it is in the future because you have learned what you dislike, and will not put up with in a relationship.

    My ex was terribly jealous of my dog. He was puppy, potty-training, basic training etc. And he said I spent too much time with him. Ha! No way.

    My new bf (well, not new, but you know) loves my dog. Honestly, he knows I am terribly attached to my George. I have a tattoo on my wrist of him, and he completely respects my attachment, and my love for my guy. He never complains about him, and doesn't mind him sleeping between us.

    Mike (bf) goes to horse shows with me. Helps with what he can. And encourages me to go for my dreams with horses. He has said he wants to purchase me a breeding for Rumor because of how much I have talked about it. I wont let him, but he's completely down for whatever I want. When Chilly was going to foal back in March, he understood me having to be on watch for her, and didnt complain that he didnt see me much. It was wonderful.

    Don't fret over not having someone in your life. He will find you when you least expect it. I absolutely 10000000 percent promise.

    I'm going to nursing school in a few weeks, and it is going to be rough with my schedule, but he is excited and eager for me to start (and finish) Having a mature, and supportive significant other is well worth waiting for.
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        08-18-2013, 09:07 PM
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    Green Broke
    Hold up. Is this the guy you came down to HI to see??? Want me to beat him up?

    On the serious side. Don't sweat it chicka. If he can't support you in something you love (scoff of COURSE your horse comes first haha) then he needed a swift kick out the door. Doesn't matter whether your significant other likes the same things you do. They should be supportive none the less.


    Don't worry about it. Someday the right guy will come into your life. Don't chase it, just live life and be happy and make the most of it.
         
        08-18-2013, 09:24 PM
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    Showing
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    Originally Posted by Roperchick    
    hold up. Is this the guy you came down to HI to see??? Want me to beat him up?

    On the serious side. Don't sweat it chicka. If he can't support you in something you love (scoff of COURSE your horse comes first haha) then he needed a swift kick out the door. Doesn't matter whether your significant other likes the same things you do. They should be supportive none the less.


    Don't worry about it. Someday the right guy will come into your life. Don't chase it, just live life and be happy and make the most of it.
    Yep, the same one, Christie!! The one I spent literally thousands on.

    Thank you for your advice :) It totally reaffirms what I was too silly to admit to myself.
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