Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Germany- but not German =D
I can say, from personal experience, an ex should be an ex. Don't try and stay friends with them; there are plenty of other people in the world to be friends with.
My ex came back from holiday, fooled around and then basically dumped me for the girl he had been on holiday with. We stayed friends for a while, and then the use and abuse became infuriating. I snapped, told him Karma will hit him one day and stopped all contact. He has tried to be in touch with me, and I have ignored it. He broke my heart, and then broke me even further. I had no wish to be back in a relationship with him, but he took things too far to get what he wanted.
At the same time Dubai was sold/gifted to my trainer, my health went down hill and I was told there was a very likely chance it was long term and I would never get to Sandhurst. It broke me down a lot.
My advice? Keep your head high. You are young, beautiful and a kind person. There will be the right person out there for you, and if after three years someone can't return your feelings and has such jealousy issues against an animal, they are not worth your time.
It will take a bit of time to get over it. Five months later I still get the odd pang.. then I give myself a good pinch and remind myself what an ass the guy was. But surround yourself with friends and family. I learnt, very quickly, that those who appreciate you most are the ones that are there through thick and thin.