This is more of a rant but it's driving me crazy. I have a job, a business and 9 animals to take care of but my father who lives 5 hours away expects me to drop everything to visit. In the 17 years I haven't lived with him, he has never made an effort to visit me, I have to travel, I have to find rides, pay gas, buy the tickets. He moved 5 hours away from me, I didn't choose that, but I'm the one who has to make the trip, not him. I haven't seen him in 4 going on 5 years, he has came within 30 minutes of my house many times, but hasn't came to see me.
It's always "you have to see this, or do that or see my horses". As far as I can figure he was never into horses, and now he owns three? What the heck? Not to mention all three were bought after hundreds of promises to help me buy a horse, two were after my first horse died, one was bought for my step mother. The worst thing is, people say tell him how you feel, I have over and over and over, he's head is so fat he doesn't seem to hear anything that ruins his prefect little life. He's the hero, the fire fighter, the volunteer, and the all around prefect person. But he's also the guy that has forgotten my birthday more than I care to remember, or the how many times he said he would pick me up and never came. He's great, at making promises he'll never keep.
I have no idea how to tell him, there is no way I'm traveling up there again, I don't like sleeping in the basement, I don't like being home alone with nothing to do all day, or the fact there is never any food in the place, the dog has bitten me six times, or the fact I'm expected to do chores or do work (some is reasonable, all is crazy).
I haven't moved, he knows where I am at, my phone number. Is it really that hard? I don't know a parents point of view in this but with how many years of doing stuff I didn't enjoy to make my dad happy, it's making me miserable and bitter towards him.