Okay right now I am soooo pee-ed off at my father I need to blow some steam.
Everything I do, or don't do, seems to get him all upset.
Since my work shirts were all bleach stained and had holes in, I got 2 new replacements from work. My dad TOLD me to talk to the lady who takes care of the shirts to see if I could hold one to one of the bleach stained ones when I am working around bleach so I don't get the two new ones all stained up. I explained that on the paper I had to sign to get the new shirts, it said that I had to return BOTH shirts. He got all upset and told me again to ask...when again I explained about the paper and then also added that other people have tried and she wouldn't let them...so I know she wouldn't let me. Then he get's even more upset at me...started yelling at me, saying stuff like "fine you think you know it all, but you don't", "you are so pigheaded...." etc.
Then one time I asked my dad to go up to the stables to meet Sonny and whatnot. So he agrees, takes his camera and goes up with me. I put Sonny in the arena, lunged him around, then started tacking him up. Sonny, who had a problem with respecting my space, got wayyy too close to me when I was tightening the girth up...so as usual, I'd give him one warning (and usually just me saying "Sonny" in a rough voice is enough) but that day he was determined to get closer...so I took his lead rope, and moved it side to side (which normally will make him back up), but again, he did not. So I took the lead rope, and I forced him back 10 steps then I glared at him. My dad the whole time was saying "be nice to him! He just wants to see you, and get loving". I tried to explain to my dad that, I was not hurting him, and whether or not he wants some loves does not give Sonny the right to get that close to me when I don't want him to be. I also said it was a respect issue...a horse that get's in your space, rubs his head on you, or is pushy, is trying to dominate you and you can't have that happen.
Well he got so upset that he said "well maybe we should sell him because you don't know how to treat him" and then stormed out of the barn, and stayed in the car for the rest of the time.
Before I bought Sonny, I used to ride a paint mare named Star. One night I went up to ride her with two of my friends, and my dad came along. As I was riding her, my dad told me to get her faster because everyone else was cantering (he didn't say cantering...he said get her faster because everyone was going faster). I explained to him that I was not (at that time) ready to canter or go faster than a trot. I hadn't had a formal cantering lesson, and my trainer said to us all that we aren't allowed to do things that we haven't had a lesson on...both for our safetly, whoever else was riding with us, and the horse's safetly. I said that to him, and again he accused me of "being a know-it-all" and that I'd be fine. I told him no I was not going to canter because I could loose my right to go up during the week to ride and I did not want that to happen. Again, he got all upset and stormed out of the stables and spent the rest of the time in the car.
Then a second time I went riding with a friend, and Star was acting up. She would not trot, and kept tossing her head and threatening to rear up. Well I was still a beginner rider at that time so I didn't give up a fight to control Star. So I simply got off after I got her walking with no problem. My dad was upset and said that she was fine and to get back on her. I got back on her, not wanting my dad to make a huge deal infront of my friend, but again the minute I asked for a trot, she started acting up. So I got off, and walked to the arena door, and put her in a stall...untacked her, and got another horse to ride. My dad got upset again and stormed out of the stables.
He makes me so angry!!!!! He never listens to my explinations or reasons for not doing things, and if he does, he thinks I'm just making it up so I don't have to do something