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        07-30-2012, 04:27 PM
    Haha...I knew there would be a name for it! I don't know... it's difficult to determine, from the definitions I have looked up, what exactly "fits" the definition. I never think the word "science" belongs in the same sentence with psychology....I mean, my horse manure control system is "grounded in scientific methods". They should leave the use of latin terms to real science and just call stuff what it is....like, "market place anxiety disorder" so they don't limit catagorization of behaviors to their limited knowledge of latin. <<this is sarcasm...no offense to folks in the field.>>
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        07-30-2012, 04:30 PM
    They use Latin terminology because of the medical community.
        08-05-2012, 04:18 AM
    You know, its funny, as I've said, I'm absolutely shaking, screaming, crying, throwing up terrified of spiders, BUT if one of my kids is in the room and there's a spider, or if they ask me to take care of one, I can keep it together for them (not quite sure how I do it, but I do). I expect the same of my horses. If I ask them to keep it together, like my kids need me to do, I expect them to do it. Its ok for them to let me know they're scared, but its not okay for them to cause me to get hurt, just like it wouldn't be ok for me to cause my kids fear/hurt because of my own fears.
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        08-05-2012, 09:05 PM
    Spiders – I will freak at the sight of an spider, about an week ago at work I almost threw an box and ran out of the back room, lucky I was somehow able to keep it together, often times I go numb until I can’t see them then panic . Bigger the spider worse it is. Always had an small fear of them, but then my dad got bite bad by one.
    Small places – I can’t stand bunk beds, MRIs or anywhere that I feel trap.
    Crowds – I always need an escape route, no matter how many people I’m around.
    Heights – I could never fly but I can’t walk on the edge of a cliff with my horse, if an ladder seems the tiny bit unstable I can’t climb it and can’t get on the roof of an house, But I can’t be on a stack of hay that’s tall until it feels unstable. Certain heights I can handle and others just freak me out.
        08-08-2012, 12:46 AM
    Okay, my phobia: Throwing up. Me throwing up, others throwing up...I can't handle it. I have anxiety attacks because of it, I can't eat sometimes because of it...I lived in constant fear for an entire year until I got some medication to ease my anxiety. Now I am living with it but am still terrified of it.

    -The dark - Hate not being able to see! I have a hard time feeding my horses in the dark! I have to drive my truck out to the pasture and use my lights just to feed them or otherwise I freak out.

    -Murderers, rapists, robbers...CRIMINALS - Okay, this is actually sort of funny in a way because I LOVE watching Criminal Minds, but I'm really super nervous of anyone lurking in the shadows or following me. I'm 5'3" and 110lbs, so I'd be easy to snag. I've been afraid of criminals ever since I can remember. The other funny thing about this is that I work in a grocery store where I see people that ARE criminals...and I work a single register at night with a manager and a bag boy in the back of the store. And it doesn't bother me then. Just...other times.

    -Yellow jackets - It used to be all stinging insects, but this summer, out in the greenhouse, I learned to tolerate the wasps and bees after having several close calls with them after my managers tried to squash them for me and missed. So it was easier to put up with them. But the yellow jacket...UGH. I can still remember when it flew into my greenhouse. I tried to ignore it but couldn't. They're so big and...FUZZY. YIKES! So I went inside to get my manager and had to wait outside my greenhouse for ten minutes for him to come out with wasp zapper. And then I couldn't find the dumb thing, making me look like an idiot, until we got into some other conversation and the yellow jacket came up behind him and I was screaming, "Omigosh, it's behind you! Kill it!" And then he shot spray at it mid-air and I wasn't really convinced it was dead because we couldn't find it.

    -Water - I can't swim. That pretty much explains it.

    -The material comforters are made out of rubbing against your fingernails.... HATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    -Rejection - I was the weird girl in school and have never gotten over some of the bullying I got. I get shy because I don't want people to dislike me. But I'm slowly getting over that.

    -Criticism - I think this goes hand in hand with rejection. Ugh.

    I think that's it.
        08-08-2012, 03:35 AM
    Heights. I don't go more than one step up on a stepladder. I don't like standing at the top of the stairs and looking down. I'll NEVER be a beauty queen (besides the fact I'm too old) because there is NO WAY I'm walking down (or up) stairs without gripping the railing. No railing?..or open stairway...bring on the elevator!

    Seriously...those glass elevators in big hotels?...I stand by the door with my back to the atrium. If my husband's with me, I'm clutching his hand.
    If he's not there...God help any man in there with me!

    Planes are ok. I love looking out the window. But if I'm on a horse and there's a drop...a cliff? Everyone else might be standing there on horseback enjoying the view...I'm standing on the ground holding my horse...and facing the other way. Trails with steep dropoffs?... I'm hugging the other side of the trail and trying really hard not to panic. I find it difficult to tolerate if I'm on my own two feet. Being on a horse makes it worse.

    When the kids were really little, we took them to the Sears Tower in Chicago (do I have the name right???) Anyway, they're standing with their hands on the glass wall looking out and I'm plastered against the inside wall, palms spread out to increase my contact area and waiting, praying, and trying so hard not to hyperventilate. And I'm not a praying person!

    I've faced and conquered all my other fears. This one is sticking with me.
        08-08-2012, 03:43 AM
    Oh wow you guys are really going to think I'm a nutjob...

    I won't look into mirrors at night
    If I start to think about someone/something chasing or following me, I get extremely nervous
    I can't sleep with my back facing the room - it has to be facing my boyfriend or the wall
    I don't like being touched behind my ears
    I don't like being touched by people with gloves on (doctors hate me)
    I get nervous thinking about demons and aliens because I think they will focus on me and find me if I think about them
    If my hand/foot hangs off the bed at night I get scared something will get me
    When I'm alone I won't walk past closed doors because I think someone will open it and hit me

    What's crazier is that I am an extremely sensible and reasonable person. However I'm extremely open-minded and imaginative so I guess all that leads to irrational fears. I may have a wee touch of paranoia though.

    Off to take my crazy-pills... teehee
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        08-08-2012, 10:47 AM
    Heights is a pretty common one... it bothers me too, but only selectively. If there is a railing or glass, I'm totally fine. I've gone to the top of the Eiffel tower, high roller coasters don't bother me, balconies, whatever. But I can't go more than one - maaaaaybe two, if I'm feeling really brave - steps on a ladder without freaking out.

    Last year we had a tree growing over our single-story garage and it was starting to damage the roof. My husband Kevin asked if I would come and help... I managed to get all the way up the ladder on to the roof (barely) but once I was up there all I could do was crouch on my belly on the roof and wail about how I needed to get down!!! I was so embarrassed later - it really wasn't that high, and the slope is very gentle. Kevin thought I was a little nuts!
        08-08-2012, 11:18 AM
    Failbhe, you are brave! I don't do balconies and I'll never see the view from the top of the Eiffel Tower. I won't get on my husband's OTTB because he's 16+HH. WAY too far off the ground.

    I remember one time when I was just married, we went to a major amusement park with a log flume ride. The ride broke down while our "log" was poised to go down the huge drop at the end. There we are sitting on top of this ride...NOTHING around us...waiting. My husband had to practically restrain me.
    I was ready to climb out and go down the emergency ladder on the side. I was physically shaking and in a state of PANIC. Since then, I have never. Ever. Gotten on a roller coaster of any type ever again. I don't even do Norway at Epcot Center!

    Climbing onto a roof???? You win my bravery award! (I would have loved to see you getting down! LOL)
        08-08-2012, 11:39 AM
    Haha yes I'd imagine the sight of me getting down from that roof would have been interesting... I had to get Kevin to hold on to the top of the ladder (I was convinced it was going to fall over) and hold on to me at the same time. Once I was down I lay down on the grass and just tried to breathe!

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