Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Whidbey Island Washington
I have four children and let me just say that there is no one way that will work for all of them. I have one child who will cry if I raise an eyebrow... I have one that won't give in even if I spank.... Sometimes you have to get creative. It sounds like your little one has learned to work the system. Personally the first thing I would deal with is the apology/agreement before you're done speaking. If I am speaking, no child has any business talking, even to apologize. It boils down to respect. Generally you don't have to do any more than stop talking until the kid is quiet, and then start over, all the way at the beginning. Keep doing it until they're quiet til you're done... They get really tired of having to sit there and listen to you say the same thing over and over and pretty quickly wait until you're done talking to say anything. (Perhaps that doesn't matter to you, but its a big pet peeve of mine!)
A spanking can often be the tool that will break the cycle of disrespect and disregard from a child who will not listen or do what they are told.
As for the loud voice, I like the whisper idea and have used it effectively. I did have one child who just didn't get it, and that child got picked up, carried to their room, told they could come out when they were quiet and could speak in a quiet tone of voice because they were hurting my ears, and then I held the door shut without saying anything until the child was quiet (my oldest would NOT stay in her room unless you held the door shut), you'd think it would take forever, but it really doesn't.
Again, no one method will work for every child, and you just have to keep experimenting until you find the one that works for yours. Good luck!